Somedude_UK_31
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I deleted this post...just so many -ve responses, come on people come here for advice not to get criticized.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
just a quick advice please
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mike32ct
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My gut feeling is the first girl was trying to set you up with a friend because she is already "taken." I'm not necessarily saying she has a bf, but maybe a secret friend with benefits. Or she finds you attractive but not her type.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
I doubt she is that interested in you, she needs others around for her to be with you, blockers, making it difficult for you to make any moves.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
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Mike32ct
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A mutual connection and attraction is rare. I'm still looking for one also...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Then stop crying in your beer and go make something happen.Somedude_UK_31 said:Well I'm not surprised, this has always been the case...the one I like don't like me and the ones I don't like will like me.
I just wonder what it's like to get someone you really like, and I'm gonna be wondering for a very long time I guess
As my man The Boss, Bruce Springsteen once said...
"You can't start a fire...
Can't start a fire without a spark...
You can't start a fire...
Sittin' around cryin' from a broken heart...
You can't start a fire...
worryin' about your little world falling apart..."
Stop crying and go do.
Greasy Pig
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Don't get all butthurt OP. the responses above don't seem overly or gratuitously negative.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.