Somedude_UK_31
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I deleted this post...just so many -ve responses, come on people come here for advice not to get criticized.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
just a quick advice please
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mike32ct
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My gut feeling is the first girl was trying to set you up with a friend because she is already "taken." I'm not necessarily saying she has a bf, but maybe a secret friend with benefits. Or she finds you attractive but not her type.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
I doubt she is that interested in you, she needs others around for her to be with you, blockers, making it difficult for you to make any moves.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
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Mike32ct
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A mutual connection and attraction is rare. I'm still looking for one also...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Then stop crying in your beer and go make something happen.Somedude_UK_31 said:Well I'm not surprised, this has always been the case...the one I like don't like me and the ones I don't like will like me.
I just wonder what it's like to get someone you really like, and I'm gonna be wondering for a very long time I guess
As my man The Boss, Bruce Springsteen once said...
"You can't start a fire...
Can't start a fire without a spark...
You can't start a fire...
Sittin' around cryin' from a broken heart...
You can't start a fire...
worryin' about your little world falling apart..."
Stop crying and go do.
Greasy Pig
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Don't get all butthurt OP. the responses above don't seem overly or gratuitously negative.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.