Somedude_UK_31
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I deleted this post...just so many -ve responses, come on people come here for advice not to get criticized.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
just a quick advice please
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mike32ct
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My gut feeling is the first girl was trying to set you up with a friend because she is already "taken." I'm not necessarily saying she has a bf, but maybe a secret friend with benefits. Or she finds you attractive but not her type.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
I doubt she is that interested in you, she needs others around for her to be with you, blockers, making it difficult for you to make any moves.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
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Mike32ct
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A mutual connection and attraction is rare. I'm still looking for one also...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Then stop crying in your beer and go make something happen.Somedude_UK_31 said:Well I'm not surprised, this has always been the case...the one I like don't like me and the ones I don't like will like me.
I just wonder what it's like to get someone you really like, and I'm gonna be wondering for a very long time I guess
As my man The Boss, Bruce Springsteen once said...
"You can't start a fire...
Can't start a fire without a spark...
You can't start a fire...
Sittin' around cryin' from a broken heart...
You can't start a fire...
worryin' about your little world falling apart..."
Stop crying and go do.
Greasy Pig
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Don't get all butthurt OP. the responses above don't seem overly or gratuitously negative.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.