Somedude_UK_31
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I deleted this post...just so many -ve responses, come on people come here for advice not to get criticized.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
just a quick advice please
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Mike32ct
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My gut feeling is the first girl was trying to set you up with a friend because she is already "taken." I'm not necessarily saying she has a bf, but maybe a secret friend with benefits. Or she finds you attractive but not her type.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
Trying to get an exclusive date with her is gonna be difficult. I would just keep her a friend to meet other chicks.
I doubt she is that interested in you, she needs others around for her to be with you, blockers, making it difficult for you to make any moves.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
as for her social skills not being the best, I doubt thats the case.
also, movies for first dates arent such a good idea, thats for when you and the girl have a few miles on the clock.
doing something fun, preferably with alcohol and where you will get a chance toescalate is best.
Somedude_UK_31
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Mike32ct
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A mutual connection and attraction is rare. I'm still looking for one also...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
marmel75
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Then stop crying in your beer and go make something happen.Somedude_UK_31 said:Well I'm not surprised, this has always been the case...the one I like don't like me and the ones I don't like will like me.
I just wonder what it's like to get someone you really like, and I'm gonna be wondering for a very long time I guess
As my man The Boss, Bruce Springsteen once said...
"You can't start a fire...
Can't start a fire without a spark...
You can't start a fire...
Sittin' around cryin' from a broken heart...
You can't start a fire...
worryin' about your little world falling apart..."
Stop crying and go do.
Greasy Pig
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Don't get all butthurt OP. the responses above don't seem overly or gratuitously negative.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.
And besides, you can't ask for advice and expect to hear what you want hear. You're always going to get stuff you don't want to hear or accept, but that advice is usually the most appropriate.