"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This sounds exhausting as all hell! Wouldn’t going to a location with legal prostitution be far more efficient with your time, money, and mind?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This sounds exhausting as all hell! Wouldn’t going to a location with legal prostitution be far more efficient with your time, money, and mind?
This thread is insightful because it is a realistic view into what it takes to get laid as a man who approaches strangers mainly. App swipers also have an exhausting process too.
 

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This sounds exhausting as all hell! Wouldn’t going to a location with legal prostitution be far more efficient with your time, money, and mind?
Exhausting but at the end of the day, super worth it. In recent months and even when the thread started, I just realized how much baggage I was coming into the game with. The so called wingmen I had were holding me back for the most part barring exceptions and really messing with my vibe and outcomes. I had a lot of negative influences in my life at the time to truly hit my ceiling. It really shows you how much baggage men in general who do game and struggle with women really have.

The past few months have been transformative and this game journey has been one of the most fulfilling things ever in my life. There are very few things on the planet that can change a man as much as his quest to genuinely get good with women, especially in a competitive environment like Miami which is full of flakes, fakes, and is overall a frustrating dating market. However, sniffing success here has been fulfilling in my game journey when I have had success.

I feel for men who do not go through this journey with game. You will never find and learn more about yourself, improve, and truly learn how to cut out trash from your life than when you do game. Lately, it has felt great doing so since I have broken free from pickup groups and communities. My experiences are testament to the fact that 98% of PUAs and PUA groups out there work against men in terms of helping them get laid.
 

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This is a modification of an older ideas I read about in the 2000s. The idea might even be older than that.

With night game, there was some common wisdom to use Friday and Saturday nights to find new options and use the other nights of the week for early stage dates. Women had to earn their way into getting a prime Friday/Saturday night slot.
Yup. I am also going to start a hobby which pushes me physically so my schedule is likely going to get tighter. Not starting it now but will soon. Going to end up having a lot on my plate in the coming months but I am becoming excited for the fall here. A busy life IMO is a life well lived but you know me, I am going to make time for my homies on here unless this entire forum falls apart. Pretty sure @BackInTheGame78 @Serenity @logicallefty @Atom Smasher and others won't let that happen though.
 

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This thread is insightful because it is a realistic view into what it takes to get laid as a man who approaches strangers mainly. App swipers also have an exhausting process too.
I think that when your process and system is fixed, you can potentially have consistent results but to get there, you just need to lose lots of baggage. Guys come into the game with so much baggage such as toxic beliefs, garbage wingmen, advice from trash coaches, and in order to have success, you need to lose that and become ruthlessly process and results driven. It gets me how so many men wander around aimlessly for years and show little improvement. The same old going out weekend after weekend to spam approach and having very little to show for it because they never improved.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ruthlessly process and results driven.
Yes!

It gets me how so many men wander around aimlessly for years and show little improvement. The same old going out weekend after weekend to spam approach and having very little to show for it because they never improved.
Most men who study and "practice" Game see very little in the way of improvement as compared to being an unaware, blue pill, Average Frustrated Chump.
 

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Yup. I am also going to start a hobby which pushes me physically so my schedule is likely going to get tighter. Not starting it now but will soon. Going to end up having a lot on my plate in the coming months but I am becoming excited for the fall here. A busy life IMO is a life well lived but you know me, I am going to make time for my homies on here unless this entire forum falls apart.
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your ultimate goal with women or a woman?
Marriage and children? Are you starting a physical hobby and gaming to improve your interaction with women and yourself generally, with the aim of manwhoring indefinitely or ultimately getting one suitable woman for family formation?
 

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If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your ultimate goal with women or a woman?
Marriage and children? Are you starting a physical hobby and gaming to improve your interaction with women and yourself generally, with the aim of manwhoring indefinitely or ultimately getting one suitable woman for family formation?
This seems like shade or some passive aggressive jab but I will assume it is not. The hobby is independent of women. As for my goal, to sleep with a ton of different women. You have an issue with that, you are free to socialize with others on this forum who are more in line with your morals.
 

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Most men who study and "practice" Game see very little in the way of improvement as compared to being an unaware, blue pill, Average Frustrated Chump.
I have an observation about the game community and pickup, it is a community of extremes in a way. In many ways, the advice when applied can help men a lot. I think that there are 10% of men in the game community who have a super high ceiling. I mean the kinds of guys who will learn game and self-improvement, sleep with hundreds of different women as a result, and then just move on. These guys are driven by action and always putting in the work. They see game as an art that needs refining, a skill almost that needs to be constantly built up. At some point, they will have their fun and move on.

Then you have the 90%.

These are the guys who will go out every week, do the same crap, approach ugly girls because "take action bro!", get rejected, and then act like babies ("omg it is so unfair these women are meeting men through social circle and work!"). They will go on for years at times doing this with almost little to show. These are your broken PUAs who date busted up chicks and never really progress that far in the game. They theorize a ton and start blaming all sorts of external for their lack of success.

All I know is this. I want to eventually move on from this once I have had my fun. Go all in on my business or do something even higher value with my life than game. However, game is a necessary rite of passage for men. A man must sow his wild oats and have his fun before he can move on. Or else, he becomes like those pastors who preach Jesus but then cheat on their wives with significantly younger women. He becomes those creepy old corporate dorks that prey on interns while cheating on their wives because they never had their fun at a younger age.
 

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This seems like shade or some passive aggressive jab but I will assume it is not. The hobby is independent of women. As for my goal, to sleep with a ton of different women. You have an issue with that, you are free to socialize with others on this forum who are more in line with your morals.
It was a judgment-free inquiry. That’s all. I was curious what your aim is considering your investment.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I have faced a lot of criticism and hatred for my goal with game hence my standoffish attitude.
I’m assuming this is mostly from “normal people” lol with the whole “don’t you have a girlfriend” or “when are you getting married” thing?
 

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I have faced a lot of criticism and hatred for my goal with game hence my standoffish attitude.
I’m assuming this is mostly from “normal people” lol with the whole “don’t you have a girlfriend” or “when are you getting married” thing?
Yes but also from PUAs, Red Pillers, and even some on this forum :/
Someone's goals in the mating environment does impact which approach methods to use. Approaching strangers in-person can be used for both finding a longer term girlfriend or for shorter term casual sex.

 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I could understand the flack from the first group but it coming from the second group is wild :rofl:
PUAs and red pillers overlap quite a bit. PUA is one sub segment of the red pill.
 

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Normal people are mostly blue pill. It's very difficult to talk about the seduction lifestyle with blue pill normies.
I think the term I’m looking for is blue pill. I was trying to avoid using the term “normie friends” :rofl:

And yes, it’s fruitless. 99% of the time they just don’t understand what we’re trying to achieve. I think it’s best just to do you, and let your results/lifestyle speak for itself.
 

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I could understand the flack from the first group but it coming from the second group is wild :rofl:
The whole MGTOW and other garbage has invaded pickup and seduction spaces hard. Tons of dudes, even on here, who would get all religious on you and preach right wing garbage about finding a family and settling down fast. TBH, I don't blame them either sometimes. The game is most definitely a grind.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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