"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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Is tryna smash on the first date moving too fast?

nicksaiz65

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So if I’m pretty sure that a girl is feeling me, is it moving too fast to try and smash on the first date? Like hanging out to show her the studio, watch a movie, and smash from there? Just kinda impatient so I was just wondering lol.
 

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Nothing wrong with that but you could screw yourself over depending on how you react if she shuts you down.
 

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Depends on what you mean by trying to smash.

If you go full on hail mary with it, then yes you may screw your chances if it doesn't work,

But if you just try to escalate normally to the point where you get laid, whether you get there or not it shouldn't have any effect

On the other hand however, not trying to smash is actively bad unless you're screening for women who don't like you or trying to make friends lol

So, whipping your **** out in the car (unless you're both drunk) = bad

Inviting her upstairs to check out how cute your dog is/asking if she minds letting you use her bathroom after you make sure to walk her home to make sure she gets there safe = okay

As long as you didn't do anything too crazy if she gets offended that you dared to try to get laid that's not a very good sign (wtf did she think she was going on a date for? To make friends? Free food?),

but if she simply doesn't let you bend her over after one date, thats perfectly and totally normal and to be fully expected (first date lays are pretty much impossible unless she's drunk or you guys know each other well already)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Depends on what you mean by trying to smash.

If you go full on hail mary with it, then yes you may screw your chances if it doesn't work,

But if you just try to escalate normally to the point where you get laid, whether you get there or not it shouldn't have any effect

On the other hand however, not trying to smash is actively bad unless you're screening for women who don't like you or trying to make friends lol

So, whipping your **** out in the car (unless you're both drunk) = bad

Inviting her upstairs to check out how cute your dog is/asking if she minds letting you use her bathroom after you make sure to walk her home to make sure she gets there safe = okay

As long as you didn't do anything too crazy if she gets offended that you dared to try to get laid that's not a very good sign (wtf did she think she was going on a date for? To make friends? Free food?),

but if she simply doesn't let you bend her over after one date, thats perfectly and totally normal and to be fully expected (first date lays are pretty much impossible unless she's drunk or you guys know each other well already)
Yeah that’s perfect! I was just wondering about escalating normally on the first date. This girl picked me up instead of the other way around so I thought it might be worth a shot
 

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Depends on the chick.

Is she a hoe? Then smash ASAP.

Tonight I scored a date with an HB 9. She’s a very quality girl, masters degree and I know her through my work. I’m not gonna try to smash her on the first or second date. Rather I am gonna build rapport. I don’t want to bang right away and have her have buyers remorse. I want her to develop feelings for me. This is a girl I’m both mentally and physically attracted to which doesn’t happen often. If I look desperate for sechs it will turn her off.
 

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So if I’m pretty sure that a girl is feeling me, is it moving too fast to try and smash on the first date? Like hanging out to show her the studio, watch a movie, and smash from there? Just kinda impatient so I was just wondering lol.
Not moving too fast but it DQs her from anything serious long term.
 

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So if I’m pretty sure that a girl is feeling me, is it moving too fast to try and smash on the first date? Like hanging out to show her the studio, watch a movie, and smash from there?
The 'watch a movie' part sounds boring. Everything else is good. I expect sex on the first date, but at the same time, I am not pushy at all. Those are two different things.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Tonight I scored a date with an HB 9. She’s a very quality girl, masters degree and I know her through my work. I’m not gonna try to smash her on the first or second date. Rather I am gonna build rapport. I don’t want to bang right away and have her have buyers remorse. I want her to develop feelings for me. This is a girl I’m both mentally and physically attracted to which doesn’t happen often. If I look desperate for sechs it will turn her off.
the valedictorian of my class in my high school who is currently going through college on a full academic scholarship also constantly likes to post half naked pics in her underwear on snapchat
 

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could anything be faster?

 
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