"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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She's 23 and runs between me and this other guy who's a year younger than me (37) but feckless (borrows money off her,lives in a houseshare, etc) she's not a GF just a fwb. Had argument and I mentioned I was going to get a hiv test.
She writes back saying 'she doesnt feel like being there for me, (shes childish, saying this because we've argued, on a good week she'd be compliant) but I never asked such a thing I actually just wanted to know where the nearest/best clinic was'
Heres my reply:

Result: (result of hiv test)

By the way a55hole, I didn't want you to "be there for me" I'm 38, there's nothing I need you for.
Your man-child that can't pay his own bills might need your help, I certainly don't.

I wanted your opinion on which clinic to use that was all. Sexually transmitted diseases are a new thing to me, I just thought you'd know more.

Too long? too needy? Opinions?

Before anyone says it there is virtually zero chance she's given me anything (we mainly do oral only on each other) im only getting the test done out of curiousity because to my knowledge ive never caught anything at all in my life. (and cant quite believe ive never caught even a minor std)
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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She's 23 and runs between me and this other guy who's a year younger than me (37) but feckless (borrows money off her,lives in a houseshare, etc) she's not a GF just a fwb. Had argument and I mentioned I was going to get a hiv test.
She writes back saying 'she doesnt feel like being there for me, (shes childish, saying this because we've argued, on a good week she'd be compliant) but I never asked such a thing I actually just wanted to know where the nearest/best clinic was'
Heres my reply:

Result: (result of hiv test)

By the way a55hole, I didn't want you to "be there for me" I'm 38, there's nothing I need you for.
Your man-child that can't pay his own bills might need your help, I certainly don't.

I wanted your opinion on which clinic to use that was all. Sexually transmitted diseases are a new thing to me, I just thought you'd know more.

Too long? too needy? Opinions?

Before anyone says it there is virtually zero chance she's given me anything (we mainly do oral only on each other) im only getting the test done out of curiousity because to my knowledge ive never caught anything at all in my life. (and cant quite believe ive never caught even a minor std)
If you are negative I wouldn't even send her a message. Positive results Just a Hey get checked Im positive for crotch rot or what ever. Make it short.
 

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Your reply was OK. Little too much negative emotion but not horrible. I might have went this route:

"Oh shoot no I didn't want you to 'be there for me'. I just wanted your opinion on which clinic to use, that was all. Sexually transmitted diseases are a new thing to me, I just thought you might be able to advise. No worries. Take care."
 

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She's 23 and runs between me and this other guy who's a year younger than me (37) but feckless (borrows money off her,lives in a houseshare, etc) she's not a GF just a fwb. Had argument and I mentioned I was going to get a hiv test.
She writes back saying 'she doesnt feel like being there for me, (shes childish, saying this because we've argued, on a good week she'd be compliant) but I never asked such a thing I actually just wanted to know where the nearest/best clinic was'
Heres my reply:

Result: (result of hiv test)

By the way a55hole, I didn't want you to "be there for me" I'm 38, there's nothing I need you for.
Your man-child that can't pay his own bills might need your help, I certainly don't.

I wanted your opinion on which clinic to use that was all. Sexually transmitted diseases are a new thing to me, I just thought you'd know more.

Too long? too needy? Opinions?

Before anyone says it there is virtually zero chance she's given me anything (we mainly do oral only on each other) im only getting the test done out of curiousity because to my knowledge ive never caught anything at all in my life. (and cant quite believe ive never caught even a minor std)
Multiple **** ups here.

A) you demostrated u care what she thinks and that she has strong control over ur emotional state.u looked kinda bitter. look how reactive u were. this girl runs ur emotions with little effort.

Ur good though. just dont let her affect u emotionally next time
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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BorisMoris

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Your reply was OK. Little too much negative emotion but not horrible. I might have went this route:

"Oh shoot no I didn't want you to 'be there for me'. I just wanted your opinion on which clinic to use, that was all. Sexually transmitted diseases are a new thing to me, I just thought you might be able to advise. No worries. Take care."
Thanks, I'm using this one when the results are back - it conveys pure indifference.
 

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Sounds simply like a love triangle where the only reward is a bj or an STD. I wouldn't text her anything. Move on.
 

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If she ever gets in contact again i'm just going to send a brief message to the other guy and say: Please can you get your **** buddy under control and stop her pestering me. Thanks.
 

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If she ever gets in contact again i'm just going to send a brief message to the other guy and say: Please can you get your **** buddy under control and stop her pestering me. Thanks.
You shouldn't care remember.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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