So it seems like I can only focus on one girl at a time... even to a point where I have to pretty much ignore or tell a girl to F*** off before I can get my mind off of her and onto another one. It's really easy for me to write a girl off, and just move onto the next or find another one. Girls seem to be much better at like keeping their minds on three different guys at once, probably something to do with security. Does this have to do with oneitis? Is this something I should change?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
is this normal... that i can only focus on one girl at a time?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yep. Women have longer attention spans than us biologicaly. Not only is this normal its better anyways.. just don't get with the 1 girl and forget you have other options.
Make it be known by your actions she's very replacable.
Good luck on your journey keep us posted
Chris
Make it be known by your actions she's very replacable.
Good luck on your journey keep us posted
Chris
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Women? The same one's whose opinions change literally with the weather? I'll say women can stretch their attention wider, by guys are a lot more singleminded.cola said:
Anyway, back to the thread, from experience keeping the number low works best unless you have nothing else to do. Between working and a hobby, it's tought to keep up with two let along more. You're always running somewhere or hearing a story that you just don't care about on top of trying to keep it secret that you are taking to someone else. Then if they do know, they're trying to one up the other women so you'll spend more time with them. I say just slow down, take one at a time and let what happens happen.
Well, I'll tell you what I do. Usually I'm talking to more than 1 girl at a time (but very casually), but I'll focus more on one than the others. When things go bad with her (and they eventually do) I focus on another one. I also don't care if they know that I'm talking to other girls, if they ask I tell them. Right now I have 2 girls that I'm talking to (not counting the one that went bad recently, who knows whats gonna happen with her).
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.