So it seems like I can only focus on one girl at a time... even to a point where I have to pretty much ignore or tell a girl to F*** off before I can get my mind off of her and onto another one. It's really easy for me to write a girl off, and just move onto the next or find another one. Girls seem to be much better at like keeping their minds on three different guys at once, probably something to do with security. Does this have to do with oneitis? Is this something I should change?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
is this normal... that i can only focus on one girl at a time?
- Thread starter xomel
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yep. Women have longer attention spans than us biologicaly. Not only is this normal its better anyways.. just don't get with the 1 girl and forget you have other options.
Make it be known by your actions she's very replacable.
Good luck on your journey keep us posted
Chris
Make it be known by your actions she's very replacable.
Good luck on your journey keep us posted
Chris
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Women? The same one's whose opinions change literally with the weather? I'll say women can stretch their attention wider, by guys are a lot more singleminded.cola said:
Anyway, back to the thread, from experience keeping the number low works best unless you have nothing else to do. Between working and a hobby, it's tought to keep up with two let along more. You're always running somewhere or hearing a story that you just don't care about on top of trying to keep it secret that you are taking to someone else. Then if they do know, they're trying to one up the other women so you'll spend more time with them. I say just slow down, take one at a time and let what happens happen.
Well, I'll tell you what I do. Usually I'm talking to more than 1 girl at a time (but very casually), but I'll focus more on one than the others. When things go bad with her (and they eventually do) I focus on another one. I also don't care if they know that I'm talking to other girls, if they ask I tell them. Right now I have 2 girls that I'm talking to (not counting the one that went bad recently, who knows whats gonna happen with her).
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.