So it seems like I can only focus on one girl at a time... even to a point where I have to pretty much ignore or tell a girl to F*** off before I can get my mind off of her and onto another one. It's really easy for me to write a girl off, and just move onto the next or find another one. Girls seem to be much better at like keeping their minds on three different guys at once, probably something to do with security. Does this have to do with oneitis? Is this something I should change?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
is this normal... that i can only focus on one girl at a time?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yep. Women have longer attention spans than us biologicaly. Not only is this normal its better anyways.. just don't get with the 1 girl and forget you have other options.
Make it be known by your actions she's very replacable.
Good luck on your journey keep us posted
Chris
Make it be known by your actions she's very replacable.
Good luck on your journey keep us posted
Chris
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Women? The same one's whose opinions change literally with the weather? I'll say women can stretch their attention wider, by guys are a lot more singleminded.cola said:
Anyway, back to the thread, from experience keeping the number low works best unless you have nothing else to do. Between working and a hobby, it's tought to keep up with two let along more. You're always running somewhere or hearing a story that you just don't care about on top of trying to keep it secret that you are taking to someone else. Then if they do know, they're trying to one up the other women so you'll spend more time with them. I say just slow down, take one at a time and let what happens happen.
Well, I'll tell you what I do. Usually I'm talking to more than 1 girl at a time (but very casually), but I'll focus more on one than the others. When things go bad with her (and they eventually do) I focus on another one. I also don't care if they know that I'm talking to other girls, if they ask I tell them. Right now I have 2 girls that I'm talking to (not counting the one that went bad recently, who knows whats gonna happen with her).
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.