Is there some sort of rule where you dont sit next to ppl you don't know in lectures?

[abc123x]

Yes or No? Is it considered wierd for a guy to sit next to a girl he doesnt know in a lecture hall?

 

[TIC]

Yes or No? Is it considered wierd for a guy to sit next to a girl he doesnt know in a lecture hall?

I see this phenomena all throughout the country not just colleges and lecture halls. America is socially disconnected. No one trusts their fellow neighbor, everyone is isolated. If they are together, people are in small groups and clicks. The purpose of a click, as you know, is to keep others out.

My theory is that the yuppies and baby-boomer narcastic generation did this. We were all taught from a young age not to talk or trust strangers. This, to me, is why there's so much anxiety and fear not just when approaching girls, but meeting any type of new person you don't already know. Seems like everything has to come through your social circle now days-your gf, your job (nepotism), etc etc.

just my 2 pennies

 

[abc123x]

How can you know someone to sit next to in every lecture hall?

Lets say the lecture is pretty much packed but theres 3 empty seats next to a group of girls and you sit in the one thats next to one of the girls rather than a seat or two away.

 

[PapiChulo]

It's a weird pusy rule. True to some extent, but I dont see why one can be where he desires - it's a free country.

 

[Cil]

Sadly this really seems to be the case. I've found people are pretty open to you sitting next to them and starting a conversation just it's really rare for someone to actually do it.

 

[Big O]

Lets say the lecture is pretty much packed but theres 3 empty seats next to a group of girls and you sit in the one thats next to one of the girls rather than a seat or two away.

I'd probably sit one away at first. Once you start chit-chatting and flirting you can just move over to talk/hear more easily, etc. Or if there's no talking in class you can talk to her/them afterward, "hey, I noticed you in class today..."

for what it's worth, I was on a mostly empty subway once and a cute girl wearing a skirt entered the train and came to sit directly next to me, even with all of the clearly empty seats around. She was clearly interested, I didn't make a move, but oh well, this was a while ago now.

 

[ENIGMA16]

It's only weird if you make it weird, which most people do. I sat next to this girl in one of my classes last semester even though there were plenty of other seats because she was cute and we had a great conversation until she started blabbering about how lazy welfare recipients are and such.

 

[thedoc]

As you're sitting down, just make eye contact and say hi. Then unpack your books and do whatever you want.

Simple as that.

 

[BigJimbo]

All the more reason you need to join a Frat. Or else go "Revenge of the Nerds" style and create one. You only live once.

If you insist on not going Frat. I suggest you use a lot of words like "Bang", "Screw", "Jerk", "Suck", "Hard", "Wet", etc. Just use them in your everyday speech. That subliminal stuff is scary.

 

[ARrocket]

I'd probably sit one away at first. Once you start chit-chatting and flirting you can just move over to talk/hear more easily, etc.

This. I've done the whole sit right next to her thing...and while they seemed pretty receptive, it is a little weird. You'll be perfectly fine gaming them with one measly seat in between you two.

 

[nismo-4]

Judge nismo knows this was filed under "Complete bullsh*t!"

This was said originally by a man who wasn't an alpha male. Not everybody will know your ass nor will everybody like your ass. Just look and act like you belong, say hi, break the ice, and for better or worse, you'll feel better you stepped out of your comfort zone. I did this often in lectures and it worked in my favor in most cases. When I didn't work, I was showing insecurity. BTW Before and after the lecture.

Remember there are secrets where fairies don't live.

Case closed.

 

[J. Darko]

No, I'm in college and when I attend a lecture I just pick a seat next to some random stranger and say Hi, I'm J. Darko. However, people always sit next to their friends. It's social proof I guess.