"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Is there some sort of rule where you dont sit next to ppl you don't know in lectures?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I see this phenomena all throughout the country not just colleges and lecture halls. America is socially disconnected. No one trusts their fellow neighbor, everyone is isolated. If they are together, people are in small groups and clicks. The purpose of a click, as you know, is to keep others out.abc123x said:
My theory is that the yuppies and baby-boomer narcastic generation did this. We were all taught from a young age not to talk or trust strangers. This, to me, is why there's so much anxiety and fear not just when approaching girls, but meeting any type of new person you don't already know. Seems like everything has to come through your social circle now days-your gf, your job (nepotism), etc etc.
just my 2 pennies
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'd probably sit one away at first. Once you start chit-chatting and flirting you can just move over to talk/hear more easily, etc. Or if there's no talking in class you can talk to her/them afterward, "hey, I noticed you in class today..."abc123x said:
for what it's worth, I was on a mostly empty subway once and a cute girl wearing a skirt entered the train and came to sit directly next to me, even with all of the clearly empty seats around. She was clearly interested, I didn't make a move, but oh well, this was a while ago now.
If you insist on not going Frat. I suggest you use a lot of words like "Bang", "Screw", "Jerk", "Suck", "Hard", "Wet", etc. Just use them in your everyday speech. That subliminal stuff is scary.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
This. I've done the whole sit right next to her thing...and while they seemed pretty receptive, it is a little weird. You'll be perfectly fine gaming them with one measly seat in between you two.Big O said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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This was said originally by a man who wasn't an alpha male. Not everybody will know your ass nor will everybody like your ass. Just look and act like you belong, say hi, break the ice, and for better or worse, you'll feel better you stepped out of your comfort zone. I did this often in lectures and it worked in my favor in most cases. When I didn't work, I was showing insecurity. BTW Before and after the lecture.
Remember there are secrets where fairies don't live.
Case closed.