"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is there some sort of rule where you dont sit next to ppl you don't know in lectures?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I see this phenomena all throughout the country not just colleges and lecture halls. America is socially disconnected. No one trusts their fellow neighbor, everyone is isolated. If they are together, people are in small groups and clicks. The purpose of a click, as you know, is to keep others out.abc123x said:
My theory is that the yuppies and baby-boomer narcastic generation did this. We were all taught from a young age not to talk or trust strangers. This, to me, is why there's so much anxiety and fear not just when approaching girls, but meeting any type of new person you don't already know. Seems like everything has to come through your social circle now days-your gf, your job (nepotism), etc etc.
just my 2 pennies
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I'd probably sit one away at first. Once you start chit-chatting and flirting you can just move over to talk/hear more easily, etc. Or if there's no talking in class you can talk to her/them afterward, "hey, I noticed you in class today..."abc123x said:
for what it's worth, I was on a mostly empty subway once and a cute girl wearing a skirt entered the train and came to sit directly next to me, even with all of the clearly empty seats around. She was clearly interested, I didn't make a move, but oh well, this was a while ago now.
If you insist on not going Frat. I suggest you use a lot of words like "Bang", "Screw", "Jerk", "Suck", "Hard", "Wet", etc. Just use them in your everyday speech. That subliminal stuff is scary.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
This. I've done the whole sit right next to her thing...and while they seemed pretty receptive, it is a little weird. You'll be perfectly fine gaming them with one measly seat in between you two.Big O said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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This was said originally by a man who wasn't an alpha male. Not everybody will know your ass nor will everybody like your ass. Just look and act like you belong, say hi, break the ice, and for better or worse, you'll feel better you stepped out of your comfort zone. I did this often in lectures and it worked in my favor in most cases. When I didn't work, I was showing insecurity. BTW Before and after the lecture.
Remember there are secrets where fairies don't live.
Case closed.