"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is there some sort of rule where you dont sit next to ppl you don't know in lectures?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I see this phenomena all throughout the country not just colleges and lecture halls. America is socially disconnected. No one trusts their fellow neighbor, everyone is isolated. If they are together, people are in small groups and clicks. The purpose of a click, as you know, is to keep others out.abc123x said:
My theory is that the yuppies and baby-boomer narcastic generation did this. We were all taught from a young age not to talk or trust strangers. This, to me, is why there's so much anxiety and fear not just when approaching girls, but meeting any type of new person you don't already know. Seems like everything has to come through your social circle now days-your gf, your job (nepotism), etc etc.
just my 2 pennies
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'd probably sit one away at first. Once you start chit-chatting and flirting you can just move over to talk/hear more easily, etc. Or if there's no talking in class you can talk to her/them afterward, "hey, I noticed you in class today..."abc123x said:
for what it's worth, I was on a mostly empty subway once and a cute girl wearing a skirt entered the train and came to sit directly next to me, even with all of the clearly empty seats around. She was clearly interested, I didn't make a move, but oh well, this was a while ago now.
If you insist on not going Frat. I suggest you use a lot of words like "Bang", "Screw", "Jerk", "Suck", "Hard", "Wet", etc. Just use them in your everyday speech. That subliminal stuff is scary.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
This. I've done the whole sit right next to her thing...and while they seemed pretty receptive, it is a little weird. You'll be perfectly fine gaming them with one measly seat in between you two.Big O said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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This was said originally by a man who wasn't an alpha male. Not everybody will know your ass nor will everybody like your ass. Just look and act like you belong, say hi, break the ice, and for better or worse, you'll feel better you stepped out of your comfort zone. I did this often in lectures and it worked in my favor in most cases. When I didn't work, I was showing insecurity. BTW Before and after the lecture.
Remember there are secrets where fairies don't live.
Case closed.