"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is my professor attracted to me?

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Lol no. Unless he is a pilot XP. Here's a random thing to confirm I am indeed a pilot: blockage of pitot static system causes a false indication of IAS due to Bernoulli's principle it is based upon: as velocity increases, static pressure decreases.

By the way, I did say "Nice shirt" and all he said was a plain "thanks". I think it was maybe too subtle or something. Will it creep you guys out if a girl said: you're cute. I wish guys around my age these days are more like you.

And no, I AM SO HAPPY!No wedding ring. Never mentioned a girlfriend let alone a woman. Always mentioned about his mates and friends.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There is no breach of academic misconduct since the course would then be finished. Do I ask him if he could help me with my commercial pilot's license stuff after the class and talk over it over coffee?
 

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First, we need more pics to correctly asses the situation at hand.

OP yes he is interested in you.

Just keep gently flirting with him and when class is over, ask him out if he doesn't ask you out first.
 

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Pics? What sort? His pics or mine?

Secondly I know that eye contact between student and professors are normal during a presentation, but 93 times?
 

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Well, just an update. He looked at me 100+ times today and when he wasn't explaining things to the class, he was looking at me the whole time. No matter where he walked his body was pointing towards my direction. And his pupils were dilated.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MsAviator said:
Well, just an update. He looked at me 100+ times today and when he wasn't explaining things to the class, he was looking at me the whole time. No matter where he walked his body was pointing towards my direction. And his pupils were dilated.
Maybe you were imagining it?
 

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Nope. Dead sure I was conscious. Nope. He looked at me 100 + (I did a tally) times in a two hour period. I played a little game with him. I would look at the board and out of my peripheral, I caught him. He lingered for a few seconds and looked away. I caught him so many times yet he kept making eye contact with me. He was looking me directly in the eyes. So if he was phasing out and saw me looking at him, assuming if he was not interested, he would not continuing giving eye contact to show he's not interested. He didn't do that.

I also moved really close to him. He did not Move away.
 

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MsAviator said:
Pics? What sort? His pics or mine?

Secondly I know that eye contact between student and professors are normal during a presentation, but 93 times?
Yours.
 

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What do you mean by "yours"?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ya and my pic is my avatar.
 

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Ya and my pic is my avatar.

What is so special about you for him to take an interest? Are you an engineer student or something where you are the only female?
 

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mangotot said:
What is so special about you for him to take an interest? Are you an engineer student or something where you are the only female?
She's asian, so she has a tight hoo-ha

MsAviator: do what Mauser96 said, then I want your next sosuave thread to be titled "My professor got me pregnant".
 

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Pregnant? My career is important to me. Obviously if I am pregnant, I will never gain my flying hours up. Aviation is a male dominated industry, and only a small percentage is women. I am considered attractive by many and I am a distinction student. There aren't much girls in the class either. Only 6 and 50 guys.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Pregnant? My career is important to me. Obviously if I am pregnant, I will never gain my flying hours up. Aviation is a male dominated industry, and only a small percentage is women. I am considered attractive by many and I am a distinction student. There aren't much girls in the class either. Only 6 and 50 guys.

Professor aside, are you seeing any guys romantically at the moment?
 

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Yes a couple. Trying to keep the options open.
 

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I don't want to get pregnant :(
 

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I can't. We wear uniforms and that includes slacks, ties and epaulettes. No skirts allowed.
 

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For someone your age and experience, that was very helpful. I am not stupid. My IQ is 153 by Mensa testing and my professors think of me intellectually. I am a career driven woman and I have completed multivariate calculus at the age of 17 at university. I wish people weren't so rude and ASSume that I'm a troll.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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