"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is it wrong too hit on girls?

Stéphane

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I was attending a group on about Korean language & culture. Anyhow, the assistant organizer just decided too kick me out today, saying that I wrote inappropriate emails and did advances.

Well, my emails were super safe I think, like it was nice seeing you at the meetup or things like that.

I admit I did try too set up a few dates with some of the girls, but isn't that normal for a single guy. I don't know I feel ashamed right now, I guess thats why guys only hit on girls at bars or clubs the social stigma doesn't seem too follow.

I am dating a girl at salsa right now, I better be careful in what I say because I wouldn't want too get kicked out...

sigh.. I'll just stick too bars and clubs from now on..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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As ****ed as that is, nothing you can do.

I do sense envy though, but as I said there's nothing you can do about that.
 

Stéphane

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Yeah I think your right, it might be a case of jealousy.. but I feel bad if I made some of the girls uncomfortable I didn't mean too do that.
 

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I feel bad if I made some of the girls uncomfortable I didn't mean too do that.
You can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs.

I don't see where you did anything inappropriate. If it was in a workplace I could understand if someone would object but not in the situation as you described it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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