"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is it wrong too hit on girls?

Stéphane

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I was attending a group on about Korean language & culture. Anyhow, the assistant organizer just decided too kick me out today, saying that I wrote inappropriate emails and did advances.

Well, my emails were super safe I think, like it was nice seeing you at the meetup or things like that.

I admit I did try too set up a few dates with some of the girls, but isn't that normal for a single guy. I don't know I feel ashamed right now, I guess thats why guys only hit on girls at bars or clubs the social stigma doesn't seem too follow.

I am dating a girl at salsa right now, I better be careful in what I say because I wouldn't want too get kicked out...

sigh.. I'll just stick too bars and clubs from now on..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tyson420

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As ****ed as that is, nothing you can do.

I do sense envy though, but as I said there's nothing you can do about that.
 

Stéphane

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Yeah I think your right, it might be a case of jealousy.. but I feel bad if I made some of the girls uncomfortable I didn't mean too do that.
 

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I feel bad if I made some of the girls uncomfortable I didn't mean too do that.
You can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs.

I don't see where you did anything inappropriate. If it was in a workplace I could understand if someone would object but not in the situation as you described it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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