Dhoulmagus
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is it typical for the girl to be obsessed with you at first
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sylvester the cat
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Judging by your previous posts it is very clear that this is not typical.
Perhaps you've found someone who perceives you as high value? Ride that wave if you please.
Perhaps you've found someone who perceives you as high value? Ride that wave if you please.
VikingKing
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If you are smart about it ( I mean smart subjectively in this context).
I promise you if your game is on really good, you can be a drug addicted, piece of sh!t, and you can get a good woman to not only slob your nob, but pay you rent.
Women are retards man. You can litterally just be a big piece of garbage, and a woman who is like a scientists, phd, whatever she is (smart) and still. No they are not obessed with you first, or not like you are with them.
You have to either be the sh!t or make them think you are the sh!t (or is it a combination?).
If you are just some dude, you have a lot of work to do. If you are a troll, it kind of makes me think (if its the case) that you must be really fat, or just somthing wrong with you.
or you could be a feminist troll.
I promise you if your game is on really good, you can be a drug addicted, piece of sh!t, and you can get a good woman to not only slob your nob, but pay you rent.
Women are retards man. You can litterally just be a big piece of garbage, and a woman who is like a scientists, phd, whatever she is (smart) and still. No they are not obessed with you first, or not like you are with them.
You have to either be the sh!t or make them think you are the sh!t (or is it a combination?).
If you are just some dude, you have a lot of work to do. If you are a troll, it kind of makes me think (if its the case) that you must be really fat, or just somthing wrong with you.
or you could be a feminist troll.
I know a guy who got through life with women paying him to get by. Street smart as fvck. They do leave once they realise what's happening, but he always seems to find another one. :crackup: That's what millions of women do to men and no one bats an eyelid.VikingKing said:
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
hockeyfreak79
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What are the circumstances.....have you even hit it yet?
She could just be really hungry for attention or sex or both?! Maybe she's looking to branch? Just play by your rules man, you lead she doesn't. You'll know when a red flag hits you in the face.
She could just be really hungry for attention or sex or both?! Maybe she's looking to branch? Just play by your rules man, you lead she doesn't. You'll know when a red flag hits you in the face.
Dhoulmagus
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That's what I've been thinking, but I'm pretty high value for a black guy.GS750 said:
Meisterman
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It's not necessarily uncommon in my experience. HOWEVER, I find the more obsessed about you they are to begin with, and the faster they pursue it, the more likely they are to become UNINTERESTED just as quickly, and also more likely to fall into the "BPD" category. But they won't leave you until they know they have you. And then once you give them the validation that you like them back as much as they like you, they will drop you.
Basically, the faster the train rides the tracks, the quicker the whole thing will eventually derail.
Basically, the faster the train rides the tracks, the quicker the whole thing will eventually derail.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dhoulmagus
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What do I do
RangerMIke
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Sometimes women have immediate high levels of attraction for you. Understand that this is NOT something she can control. Heck, no one can really control attraction, it's either there or it's not.Dhoulmagus said:
When they start like this the truth of the matter is it can only go down. Just do not expect this to last. As she gets to know you better, this will drop. You should not expect this to last unless you continue to deliver what she needs.
All you can do is enjoy it while it lasts and continue to display male strength qualities and don't lose your center. Remember she is attracted to you because of how you are NOW, when you get into relationships she will attempt to change you.... DON'T let her. Women are emotional and she might FEEL you need to change, but deep down inside she is attracted to you the way you are.
Dhoulmagus
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Ya I made this mistake with the last girl after she asked to be exclusive. I felt like I had to act different because. Also, we have had sex too.RangerMIke said:
Bingo-Player
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The last time a chick was obsessed with me after the first date i took my red flags and run for the hills
Was a wise move i can tell you that much
Was a wise move i can tell you that much
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Yeah I had a stage 5 clinger not too long ago that I had to move on from. The problem is, at least for me, when they are soooo into you and are borderline obsessed with you it sends up red flags. I started wondering if she was really into me or just desperate for a relationship because she can't be alone. It killed the challenge...and with it went my interest. I had to eject.