Dhoulmagus
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or am I screwed
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I know a guy who got through life with women paying him to get by. Street smart as fvck. They do leave once they realise what's happening, but he always seems to find another one. :crackup: That's what millions of women do to men and no one bats an eyelid.VikingKing said:If you are smart about it ( I mean smart subjectively in this context).
I promise you if your game is on really good, you can be a drug addicted, piece of sh!t, and you can get a good woman to not only slob your nob, but pay you rent.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Pretty much this. But remember girls like that get bored just as fast and find a new guy to obsess over. BPD girls are like that too, keep that in mind.Die Hard said:It's not typical...unless you are very high value or she has very low self esteem.
That's what I've been thinking, but I'm pretty high value for a black guy.GS750 said:Pretty much this. But remember girls like that get bored just as fast and find a new guy to obsess over. BPD girls are like that too, keep that in mind.
lol. What does that mean??!Dhoulmagus said:That's what I've been thinking, but I'm pretty high value for a black guy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
THIS X1000000Meisterman said:It's not necessarily uncommon in my experience. HOWEVER, I find the more obsessed about you they are to begin with, and the faster they pursue it, the more likely they are to become UNINTERESTED just as quickly, and also more likely to fall into the "BPD" category. But they won't leave you until they know they have you. And then once you give them the validation that you like them back as much as they like you, they will drop you.
Basically, the faster the train rides the tracks, the quicker the whole thing will eventually derail.
Sometimes women have immediate high levels of attraction for you. Understand that this is NOT something she can control. Heck, no one can really control attraction, it's either there or it's not.Dhoulmagus said:What do I do
Ya I made this mistake with the last girl after she asked to be exclusive. I felt like I had to act different because. Also, we have had sex too.RangerMIke said:Sometimes women have immediate high levels of attraction for you. Understand that this is NOT something she can control. Heck, no one can really control attraction, it's either there or it's not.
When they start like this the truth of the matter is it can only go down. Just do not expect this to last. As she gets to know you better, this will drop. You should not expect this to last unless you continue to deliver what she needs.
All you can do is enjoy it while it lasts and continue to display male strength qualities and don't lose your center. Remember she is attracted to you because of how you are NOW, when you get into relationships she will attempt to change you.... DON'T let her. Women are emotional and she might FEEL you need to change, but deep down inside she is attracted to you the way you are.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.