Dhoulmagus
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or am I screwed
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Is it typical for the girl to be obsessed with you at first
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
sylvester the cat
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Judging by your previous posts it is very clear that this is not typical.
Perhaps you've found someone who perceives you as high value? Ride that wave if you please.
Perhaps you've found someone who perceives you as high value? Ride that wave if you please.
VikingKing
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If you are smart about it ( I mean smart subjectively in this context).
I promise you if your game is on really good, you can be a drug addicted, piece of sh!t, and you can get a good woman to not only slob your nob, but pay you rent.
Women are retards man. You can litterally just be a big piece of garbage, and a woman who is like a scientists, phd, whatever she is (smart) and still. No they are not obessed with you first, or not like you are with them.
You have to either be the sh!t or make them think you are the sh!t (or is it a combination?).
If you are just some dude, you have a lot of work to do. If you are a troll, it kind of makes me think (if its the case) that you must be really fat, or just somthing wrong with you.
or you could be a feminist troll.
I promise you if your game is on really good, you can be a drug addicted, piece of sh!t, and you can get a good woman to not only slob your nob, but pay you rent.
Women are retards man. You can litterally just be a big piece of garbage, and a woman who is like a scientists, phd, whatever she is (smart) and still. No they are not obessed with you first, or not like you are with them.
You have to either be the sh!t or make them think you are the sh!t (or is it a combination?).
If you are just some dude, you have a lot of work to do. If you are a troll, it kind of makes me think (if its the case) that you must be really fat, or just somthing wrong with you.
or you could be a feminist troll.
I know a guy who got through life with women paying him to get by. Street smart as fvck. They do leave once they realise what's happening, but he always seems to find another one. :crackup: That's what millions of women do to men and no one bats an eyelid.VikingKing said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
hockeyfreak79
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What are the circumstances.....have you even hit it yet?
She could just be really hungry for attention or sex or both?! Maybe she's looking to branch? Just play by your rules man, you lead she doesn't. You'll know when a red flag hits you in the face.
She could just be really hungry for attention or sex or both?! Maybe she's looking to branch? Just play by your rules man, you lead she doesn't. You'll know when a red flag hits you in the face.
Dhoulmagus
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That's what I've been thinking, but I'm pretty high value for a black guy.GS750 said:
Meisterman
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It's not necessarily uncommon in my experience. HOWEVER, I find the more obsessed about you they are to begin with, and the faster they pursue it, the more likely they are to become UNINTERESTED just as quickly, and also more likely to fall into the "BPD" category. But they won't leave you until they know they have you. And then once you give them the validation that you like them back as much as they like you, they will drop you.
Basically, the faster the train rides the tracks, the quicker the whole thing will eventually derail.
Basically, the faster the train rides the tracks, the quicker the whole thing will eventually derail.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dhoulmagus
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What do I do
RangerMIke
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Sometimes women have immediate high levels of attraction for you. Understand that this is NOT something she can control. Heck, no one can really control attraction, it's either there or it's not.Dhoulmagus said:
When they start like this the truth of the matter is it can only go down. Just do not expect this to last. As she gets to know you better, this will drop. You should not expect this to last unless you continue to deliver what she needs.
All you can do is enjoy it while it lasts and continue to display male strength qualities and don't lose your center. Remember she is attracted to you because of how you are NOW, when you get into relationships she will attempt to change you.... DON'T let her. Women are emotional and she might FEEL you need to change, but deep down inside she is attracted to you the way you are.
Dhoulmagus
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Ya I made this mistake with the last girl after she asked to be exclusive. I felt like I had to act different because. Also, we have had sex too.RangerMIke said:
Bingo-Player
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The last time a chick was obsessed with me after the first date i took my red flags and run for the hills
Was a wise move i can tell you that much
Was a wise move i can tell you that much
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
GS750
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Yeah I had a stage 5 clinger not too long ago that I had to move on from. The problem is, at least for me, when they are soooo into you and are borderline obsessed with you it sends up red flags. I started wondering if she was really into me or just desperate for a relationship because she can't be alone. It killed the challenge...and with it went my interest. I had to eject.