Philippe Schlichting
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is it normal that you want to punch this guy?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
backseatjuan
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No it's not normal, something terribly wrong with you if you want to punch that guy.
Philippe Schlichting
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I see, I am doing everything alright. What do you like so much about him?backseatjuan said:
backseatjuan
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That 15 year old teen is on the right track! He is open, bright, and can show emotions for the camera. He'd make a great actor as he matures!
Philippe Schlichting
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Go on rubbing salt into your wound.backseatjuan said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Normal is subjective, however, it doesn't seem very emotionally healthy. Nor does it seem likely to help you at all.
What you might want to consider is why you dislike him so much that you would want to hurt him? Why do you feel you need to put people like that down in public?
It's possible that you are seeing parts of your own personality in him that you don't like and that's why you have such a strong emotional reaction.
Or maybe it's that he is able and willing to act in ways you would like to act but don't feel comfortable with at this point.
Me, I'm just glad I'm not him.
What you might want to consider is why you dislike him so much that you would want to hurt him? Why do you feel you need to put people like that down in public?
It's possible that you are seeing parts of your own personality in him that you don't like and that's why you have such a strong emotional reaction.
Or maybe it's that he is able and willing to act in ways you would like to act but don't feel comfortable with at this point.
Me, I'm just glad I'm not him.
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Elaborate.
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Cuz I like being me. If I was him I wouldn't be as awesome.
He doesn't really come across as a man's man, I probably wouldn't want to hang out with him.
I guess I'm trying to say, it's fine to dislike people. You're not going to like everyone you meet or see. That doesn't mean it's ok to want to destroy them for it.
The fact that you want to hurt him just puts a spotlight on the your own latent insecurities.
What is it about him that makes you feel so much anger?
He doesn't really come across as a man's man, I probably wouldn't want to hang out with him.
I guess I'm trying to say, it's fine to dislike people. You're not going to like everyone you meet or see. That doesn't mean it's ok to want to destroy them for it.
The fact that you want to hurt him just puts a spotlight on the your own latent insecurities.
What is it about him that makes you feel so much anger?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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What I mean is this: Let's say I wanted a girl he wanted. His behaviour is - unfortunately - attractive to women. He does almost everything pickup teaches. I would think "what a dumbass" but she would like him. I'd have to out alpha him which is exactly why I ask: "What do you do to put people like that down if you meet them in public?"
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Are you sure?Philippe Schlichting said:
He just seems like a goofy guy in the friendzone in this video.
Who cares if girls are into guys like this anyway, they change their minds as often as their panties. Focus on yourself, be the best version of you, and you'll automatically be more attractive to women. Don't worry about what the next guy is doing.
Also, hating on other guys just makes you look weak and insecure.