"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it inevitable for relationships to become mostly arguments after a certain point?

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JCKey618

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I always hear about how relationships are all gravy in the beginning. I think it is that both parties are basically afraid to argue with eachother because they are still trying to, I don't know, win the other's heart.

I experienced this myself. When I hit the 6 month mark with my last girl, everything was fine. I remember she jokingly said when I commented that the 6 months had been great "yeah, and now the next 6 months will just be arguments. that's how it goes." Low and behold, we broke up less than a month after that. We got back together if you're wondering how I got 18 months out of her (if you've read any of my last posts).

Because, if you think about it, if you have been with someone for only a few weeks or a month or so and it's already nothing but arguments, you'll get out of the relationship. But if you have a lot of history that part of you that has fallen for the person thinks "our relationships means too much."

Is there a way to keep a relationship fresh and fun like in the beginning after a certain amount of time or are LTR bound to become argument after argument? And, yes, I realize arguments are healthy for relationships sometimes, but not all the time.

Or is the trick just not to have LTRs :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dont buy it

Hey, dont buy that garbage.

There is no "inevitable" when two people are both flexible givers.

The problem is that the majority of people are takers, and when the infatuation wears down then they "become what they already are"....

and begin demanding their own way.

If you date only FLEXIBLE GIVERS, you WONT HAVE THIS PROBLEM
 
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when two people love eachother strong enough, they give respect and will accept eachother's flaws and forigve, maybe you two just haven't reached that level of bond yet.
 
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Naw, I'm not with that girl anymor. I'm not in a 'relationship' per say now. I'm just pondering....
 
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Damn, thats a good question. I dont really know honestly.

I can say from my last relationship that after 6 months, it turned ugly. We would argue quite often and over really little stupid crap. Thing is though that this girl was a mentally messed up person. I think in almost a year relationship, i started one
arguement. She was responsible for all the rest. Not one even had to come to an arguement imo.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Haha, can't curse. Yeah, I just post here from time to time...you know
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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