I always hear about how relationships are all gravy in the beginning. I think it is that both parties are basically afraid to argue with eachother because they are still trying to, I don't know, win the other's heart.
I experienced this myself. When I hit the 6 month mark with my last girl, everything was fine. I remember she jokingly said when I commented that the 6 months had been great "yeah, and now the next 6 months will just be arguments. that's how it goes." Low and behold, we broke up less than a month after that. We got back together if you're wondering how I got 18 months out of her (if you've read any of my last posts).
Because, if you think about it, if you have been with someone for only a few weeks or a month or so and it's already nothing but arguments, you'll get out of the relationship. But if you have a lot of history that part of you that has fallen for the person thinks "our relationships means too much."
Is there a way to keep a relationship fresh and fun like in the beginning after a certain amount of time or are LTR bound to become argument after argument? And, yes, I realize arguments are healthy for relationships sometimes, but not all the time.
Or is the trick just not to have LTRs
I experienced this myself. When I hit the 6 month mark with my last girl, everything was fine. I remember she jokingly said when I commented that the 6 months had been great "yeah, and now the next 6 months will just be arguments. that's how it goes." Low and behold, we broke up less than a month after that. We got back together if you're wondering how I got 18 months out of her (if you've read any of my last posts).
Because, if you think about it, if you have been with someone for only a few weeks or a month or so and it's already nothing but arguments, you'll get out of the relationship. But if you have a lot of history that part of you that has fallen for the person thinks "our relationships means too much."
Is there a way to keep a relationship fresh and fun like in the beginning after a certain amount of time or are LTR bound to become argument after argument? And, yes, I realize arguments are healthy for relationships sometimes, but not all the time.
Or is the trick just not to have LTRs