"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is it inevitable for relationships to become mostly arguments after a certain point?

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JCKey618

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I always hear about how relationships are all gravy in the beginning. I think it is that both parties are basically afraid to argue with eachother because they are still trying to, I don't know, win the other's heart.

I experienced this myself. When I hit the 6 month mark with my last girl, everything was fine. I remember she jokingly said when I commented that the 6 months had been great "yeah, and now the next 6 months will just be arguments. that's how it goes." Low and behold, we broke up less than a month after that. We got back together if you're wondering how I got 18 months out of her (if you've read any of my last posts).

Because, if you think about it, if you have been with someone for only a few weeks or a month or so and it's already nothing but arguments, you'll get out of the relationship. But if you have a lot of history that part of you that has fallen for the person thinks "our relationships means too much."

Is there a way to keep a relationship fresh and fun like in the beginning after a certain amount of time or are LTR bound to become argument after argument? And, yes, I realize arguments are healthy for relationships sometimes, but not all the time.

Or is the trick just not to have LTRs :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dont buy it

Hey, dont buy that garbage.

There is no "inevitable" when two people are both flexible givers.

The problem is that the majority of people are takers, and when the infatuation wears down then they "become what they already are"....

and begin demanding their own way.

If you date only FLEXIBLE GIVERS, you WONT HAVE THIS PROBLEM
 
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when two people love eachother strong enough, they give respect and will accept eachother's flaws and forigve, maybe you two just haven't reached that level of bond yet.
 
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Naw, I'm not with that girl anymor. I'm not in a 'relationship' per say now. I'm just pondering....
 
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Damn, thats a good question. I dont really know honestly.

I can say from my last relationship that after 6 months, it turned ugly. We would argue quite often and over really little stupid crap. Thing is though that this girl was a mentally messed up person. I think in almost a year relationship, i started one
arguement. She was responsible for all the rest. Not one even had to come to an arguement imo.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Haha, can't curse. Yeah, I just post here from time to time...you know
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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