Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is true and i have posted on it before also. It boils down to if they feel 'worthy' of you or not. This is to say if they know you're a decent, confident, intelligent, goal-oriented dude. Girls that frequent the club scene will run from this type of guy. They do not feel comfortable with it.Check this out, I know from personal experience...If you dress better than girls and have confident body language, girls will be to shook to even talk to you sometimes, and some of them might hate you cause you are so good...
I remember I was in class last year, and there was this one girl who was cute...Most of the time I was in there, I wore a Kenneth Cole shirt, some bootcut jeans, black leather dress boots and a lambskin leather jacket...This girl would see me and not give me the time of day...Then I started getting lazy and it got cold, so I started wearing a white tee, blue jeans and Timbs, a military bomber jacket, my cousin;s dog tags and my chocker chain, and my camo hat...The same girl now suddenly starts talking to me and asking me all these questions...Then there was this other dude who looked like he came out of an Abercrombie catalog and she tells me she doesnt like guys who dress up too much cause its like they are showing off all the time and that everyone dresses that way...I got some more stories if you want...Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
Okay, so do people here have actual experience with being approached more by girls (or at least them being more receptive/less shy) when dressing down compared to their. uhh, nicer attire?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.