I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is true and i have posted on it before also. It boils down to if they feel 'worthy' of you or not. This is to say if they know you're a decent, confident, intelligent, goal-oriented dude. Girls that frequent the club scene will run from this type of guy. They do not feel comfortable with it.Check this out, I know from personal experience...If you dress better than girls and have confident body language, girls will be to shook to even talk to you sometimes, and some of them might hate you cause you are so good...
I remember I was in class last year, and there was this one girl who was cute...Most of the time I was in there, I wore a Kenneth Cole shirt, some bootcut jeans, black leather dress boots and a lambskin leather jacket...This girl would see me and not give me the time of day...Then I started getting lazy and it got cold, so I started wearing a white tee, blue jeans and Timbs, a military bomber jacket, my cousin;s dog tags and my chocker chain, and my camo hat...The same girl now suddenly starts talking to me and asking me all these questions...Then there was this other dude who looked like he came out of an Abercrombie catalog and she tells me she doesnt like guys who dress up too much cause its like they are showing off all the time and that everyone dresses that way...I got some more stories if you want...Originally posted by Scrumtulescence
Okay, so do people here have actual experience with being approached more by girls (or at least them being more receptive/less shy) when dressing down compared to their. uhh, nicer attire?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.