"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Is it how you dress that make a woman check you out?
- Thread starter knight56
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
people do judge you by looks, if your dressed in "hip hop" style clothing with your pants hanging down your ass and your looking at a brand new Mercedez Benz in the show room, the car sales man wont take you seriously and wont help you.
when Im dressed in nice clothes women do smile a lot more.
I think there is a problem with dressing too nice, you hav to have game and other stuff to back you up. why? cause you're already setting standards with how well you dress. last semester this techie at my college keep telling me im rich, and there were a few ppl in the school who kept accusing me of being a player... when im not.
Plus in my AFC days i dressed quite well, certain dates i went on, you could say i disappointed the standards they set cause of my clothes and my afcness.
Now i dress more low key, and dont try at all to improve my looks, girls seem to have less of a problem conversing with me, and less intimidated. and people dont seem to make as much abrupt assumptions of me as they used to.
remember, clothing often is the first impression "dont judge the book by the cover" - often people do before they even speak to you.
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
Go to Scotland and buy a Kilt then wear it when you go out.
A friend of mine who is scottish was out in LA with his scottish mates wearing their kilts. They got so much attention from women
.The women kept peering underneath thier kilts to check out thier under wear
Royal Elite
Banned
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
This is true and i have posted on it before also. It boils down to if they feel 'worthy' of you or not. This is to say if they know you're a decent, confident, intelligent, goal-oriented dude. Girls that frequent the club scene will run from this type of guy. They do not feel comfortable with it.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
The way you dress changes the kind of women that are attracted to you humongously. For example, say I dress in a sweater that makes me look a bit young, I get young girls' attention. If I dress a bit more like a pimp, I get the golddiggers' and old wh0res' attention. If I dress a bit more mature, I get the more mature girls' attention.
Strangely, I've dressed as all three and these have been my experiences with each type of clothing. Certain types of women seem to be drawn to certain types of clothing. Personality does seem to have less to do with it, because I was acting pretty much the same on each occasion.
TheInfamousCBear
Master Don Juan
I remember I was in class last year, and there was this one girl who was cute...Most of the time I was in there, I wore a Kenneth Cole shirt, some bootcut jeans, black leather dress boots and a lambskin leather jacket...This girl would see me and not give me the time of day...Then I started getting lazy and it got cold, so I started wearing a white tee, blue jeans and Timbs, a military bomber jacket, my cousin;s dog tags and my chocker chain, and my camo hat...The same girl now suddenly starts talking to me and asking me all these questions...Then there was this other dude who looked like he came out of an Abercrombie catalog and she tells me she doesnt like guys who dress up too much cause its like they are showing off all the time and that everyone dresses that way...I got some more stories if you want...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TheInfamousCBear
Master Don Juan
I was working at this job, and I was the best dressed dude in there...Then this new girl comes, shes tall, black, long legs, thick thighs, nice bubble and tits, cute face, dressed like she came out of an Express advertisement, she could easily be in a video...When I see her, she makes eye contact with me...Then I hear her talk all this sh1t about how she only likes dudes with money...So I know shes jocking cause she would sit next to me and look at me and try to start convo's, but I didnt want to bother with her cause shes a golddigger...
So one day, me and her are sitting alone and Im trying to ignore her and she starts the convo...Shes 25, lives with her parents...Then she starts asking me how much money I make, and I lie and tell her I work at a hotel, and shes asks if Im the manager and I tell her I just work the front desk...Then she starts talking about money and how dudes buy her sh1t and that she doesnt ask for anything but she will take it...Her Ex is a rich fashion desginer and this is like her first job cause her boyfriend got everything for her...After the convo, I ignore her even more and she got so mad she let a door slam in my face, lol...
What am I trying to say? Im not telling dudes not to approach, Im just telling you you gotta watch what you wear...When Im dressed like that, people think I got money, cause she wasnt the only one who asked about how much money I made...Thats why Im keeping it simple...Im only gonna dress up when needed, theres no use of dressing up when you dont have to...