MatureDJ
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Is it creepy to keep track of dating experience in a spreadsheet?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
taiyuu_otoko
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Is it creepy to keep track? Absolutely not, it's sensible, and can protect some girl's feeling, and make her feel more "special" when you're out on a date.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Purefilth
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LOL saw this canned neg, made me chuckle.
glass half full
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sounds like a good idea, anything to keep track of progress is good, no matter what.
Halcyonique
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Danger said:
Keeping detailed, written stats and records of the people you've fvcked is creepy as hell whether you're male or female.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
SecondHalf
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^^^^ same, including children's names, places, ...taiyuu_otoko said:
I think calling it creepy is just shaming because this fellow with his well balanced spreadsheet has eliminated the women's game from the equation. His champion will be the woman with the highest score and not based on some unidentifiable desire derived from game and ... "chemistry".
It won't help him with a cold faced liar ... if she's hot, but a pretty practical way of finding a potential partner. Besides, what's the real difference between that and the 94% match crap?
That said, he's a total bubble head for sending the spreadsheet to her, a geek AFC for sure.
SH
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Why?Halcyonique said: