MatureDJ
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is it creepy to keep track of dating experience in a spreadsheet?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
taiyuu_otoko
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Is it creepy to keep track? Absolutely not, it's sensible, and can protect some girl's feeling, and make her feel more "special" when you're out on a date.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Purefilth
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LOL saw this canned neg, made me chuckle.
glass half full
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sounds like a good idea, anything to keep track of progress is good, no matter what.
Halcyonique
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Danger said:
Keeping detailed, written stats and records of the people you've fvcked is creepy as hell whether you're male or female.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SecondHalf
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^^^^ same, including children's names, places, ...taiyuu_otoko said:
I think calling it creepy is just shaming because this fellow with his well balanced spreadsheet has eliminated the women's game from the equation. His champion will be the woman with the highest score and not based on some unidentifiable desire derived from game and ... "chemistry".
It won't help him with a cold faced liar ... if she's hot, but a pretty practical way of finding a potential partner. Besides, what's the real difference between that and the 94% match crap?
That said, he's a total bubble head for sending the spreadsheet to her, a geek AFC for sure.
SH
Peaks&Valleys
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Why?Halcyonique said: