"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is it creepy to keep track of dating experience in a spreadsheet?

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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taiyuu_otoko

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Is it creepy to keep track? Absolutely not, it's sensible, and can protect some girl's feeling, and make her feel more "special" when you're out on a date.

Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.

Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.

That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.

So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.

First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.

Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
 

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She said it was funny he called her "jappy," since he was able to correctly identify her designer bag. "He said his mom had it."
LOL saw this canned neg, made me chuckle.
 

glass half full

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sounds like a good idea, anything to keep track of progress is good, no matter what.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Shoe

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glass half full said:
sounds like a good idea, anything to keep track of progress is good, no matter what.
General notes, yes. Full details, creepy.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
^^^^ same, including children's names, places, ...

I think calling it creepy is just shaming because this fellow with his well balanced spreadsheet has eliminated the women's game from the equation. His champion will be the woman with the highest score and not based on some unidentifiable desire derived from game and ... "chemistry".

It won't help him with a cold faced liar ... if she's hot, but a pretty practical way of finding a potential partner. Besides, what's the real difference between that and the 94% match crap?

That said, he's a total bubble head for sending the spreadsheet to her, a geek AFC for sure.

SH
 

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Halcyonique said:
Keeping detailed, written stats and records of the people you've fvcked is creepy as hell whether you're male or female.
Why?
 
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