MatureDJ
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is it creepy to keep track of dating experience in a spreadsheet?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
taiyuu_otoko
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Is it creepy to keep track? Absolutely not, it's sensible, and can protect some girl's feeling, and make her feel more "special" when you're out on a date.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Purefilth
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LOL saw this canned neg, made me chuckle.
glass half full
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sounds like a good idea, anything to keep track of progress is good, no matter what.
Halcyonique
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Danger said:
Keeping detailed, written stats and records of the people you've fvcked is creepy as hell whether you're male or female.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SecondHalf
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^^^^ same, including children's names, places, ...taiyuu_otoko said:
I think calling it creepy is just shaming because this fellow with his well balanced spreadsheet has eliminated the women's game from the equation. His champion will be the woman with the highest score and not based on some unidentifiable desire derived from game and ... "chemistry".
It won't help him with a cold faced liar ... if she's hot, but a pretty practical way of finding a potential partner. Besides, what's the real difference between that and the 94% match crap?
That said, he's a total bubble head for sending the spreadsheet to her, a geek AFC for sure.
SH
Peaks&Valleys
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Why?Halcyonique said: