MatureDJ
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Is it creepy to keep track of dating experience in a spreadsheet?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
taiyuu_otoko
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Is it creepy to keep track? Absolutely not, it's sensible, and can protect some girl's feeling, and make her feel more "special" when you're out on a date.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Years ago I was hitting the personals hard, and was meeting 3-5 girls a week. I HAD to keep a spreadsheet to keep track of stuff we talked about during the date.
Whenever I had a second date, I'd refer quickly to my spreadsheet just to make it easier on everybody. Made everything smoother.
That being said, any girl finds out you've got a spreadsheet, and you are IMMEDIATELY put into the "player," "pump-n-dump" category, which is DEATH with her, her friends, and friends of her friends.
So, while it's a really good idea to keep a spreadsheet, you should NEVER tell anybody that you've got a spreadsheet.
First rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Second rule of fight club, NEVER talk about fight club.
Purefilth
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LOL saw this canned neg, made me chuckle.
glass half full
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sounds like a good idea, anything to keep track of progress is good, no matter what.
Halcyonique
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Danger said:
Keeping detailed, written stats and records of the people you've fvcked is creepy as hell whether you're male or female.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
SecondHalf
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^^^^ same, including children's names, places, ...taiyuu_otoko said:
I think calling it creepy is just shaming because this fellow with his well balanced spreadsheet has eliminated the women's game from the equation. His champion will be the woman with the highest score and not based on some unidentifiable desire derived from game and ... "chemistry".
It won't help him with a cold faced liar ... if she's hot, but a pretty practical way of finding a potential partner. Besides, what's the real difference between that and the 94% match crap?
That said, he's a total bubble head for sending the spreadsheet to her, a geek AFC for sure.
SH
Peaks&Valleys
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Why?Halcyonique said: