SeymourCake
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What do y'all think?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Is it a bad move to ask the girl if they have a boyfriend?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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What is the point of asking this question?
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Can't read?
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Are you really this dense?SeymourCake said:
What is the point of asking the girl if she has a boyfriend. Who gives a fvck?
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So in other words, don't ask. What if they tell you they have a boyfriend?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Tell her you have multiple girlfriends and aren't the jealous type.SeymourCake said:
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That won't work. She'll look at me like any other man who fits into that stereotype.
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Good.SeymourCake said:
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It is possible to find out without actually asking her.
You "Hey what did you do this weekend?"
Her "I did xyz"
You "That's cool. Did you go with your boyfriend?"
Then she'd either say something like.
Yeah I did
He didn't come
I don't have a boyfriend
The girl won't know that you are really asking if she has a BF and she will have no reason to lie.
What you do from then on is up to you.
You "Hey what did you do this weekend?"
Her "I did xyz"
You "That's cool. Did you go with your boyfriend?"
Then she'd either say something like.
Yeah I did
He didn't come
I don't have a boyfriend
The girl won't know that you are really asking if she has a BF and she will have no reason to lie.
What you do from then on is up to you.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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NEVER ask if they have a bf or are married. If they are off the market they'll let you know. And if you to blurt it out and ask there's a good chance you'll get the autopilot response they have one even if they don't.SeymourCake said:
I forget who said it, but it's pretty damn true:
"If you've got bad game they'll tell you they have a bf even if they don't. If you've got good game they'll hope you don't find out about him."
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When you make your move on her, she'll let you know. If she says she does, either you had weak game or just wasn't attractive or didn't have enough to offer. Translation; She's just not that into you.
If she's interested in you somehow, she'll make it known. If you got fame, looks, or are rich, or have a great job, and you ask her, it's highly likely she'll say she doesn't have a boyfriend. If you're not and you ask her, she'll tell you she does even if she actually doesn't.
Case closed.
If she's interested in you somehow, she'll make it known. If you got fame, looks, or are rich, or have a great job, and you ask her, it's highly likely she'll say she doesn't have a boyfriend. If you're not and you ask her, she'll tell you she does even if she actually doesn't.
Case closed.
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I don't know...Do we have the same username?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
no disrespect
cake my man you need to read and not post so much because you need to take (IN=LET SOME OF THE PREVIOUS ADVICE SET IN) the whole being a dj thing its cool to ask question but not everyday there are other post that answer your question
but to answer your question you do not ask because it will come off as insecure=afc
if you have any question go to the search bar and type in what your looking trust me this forum has plenty of threads with just about any question
cake my man you need to read and not post so much because you need to take (IN=LET SOME OF THE PREVIOUS ADVICE SET IN) the whole being a dj thing its cool to ask question but not everyday there are other post that answer your question
but to answer your question you do not ask because it will come off as insecure=afc
if you have any question go to the search bar and type in what your looking trust me this forum has plenty of threads with just about any question