SeymourCake
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What do y'all think?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Is it a bad move to ask the girl if they have a boyfriend?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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What is the point of asking this question?
SeymourCake
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Can't read?
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Are you really this dense?SeymourCake said:
What is the point of asking the girl if she has a boyfriend. Who gives a fvck?
SeymourCake
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So in other words, don't ask. What if they tell you they have a boyfriend?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Tell her you have multiple girlfriends and aren't the jealous type.SeymourCake said:
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That won't work. She'll look at me like any other man who fits into that stereotype.
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Good.SeymourCake said:
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It is possible to find out without actually asking her.
You "Hey what did you do this weekend?"
Her "I did xyz"
You "That's cool. Did you go with your boyfriend?"
Then she'd either say something like.
Yeah I did
He didn't come
I don't have a boyfriend
The girl won't know that you are really asking if she has a BF and she will have no reason to lie.
What you do from then on is up to you.
You "Hey what did you do this weekend?"
Her "I did xyz"
You "That's cool. Did you go with your boyfriend?"
Then she'd either say something like.
Yeah I did
He didn't come
I don't have a boyfriend
The girl won't know that you are really asking if she has a BF and she will have no reason to lie.
What you do from then on is up to you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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NEVER ask if they have a bf or are married. If they are off the market they'll let you know. And if you to blurt it out and ask there's a good chance you'll get the autopilot response they have one even if they don't.SeymourCake said:
I forget who said it, but it's pretty damn true:
"If you've got bad game they'll tell you they have a bf even if they don't. If you've got good game they'll hope you don't find out about him."
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When you make your move on her, she'll let you know. If she says she does, either you had weak game or just wasn't attractive or didn't have enough to offer. Translation; She's just not that into you.
If she's interested in you somehow, she'll make it known. If you got fame, looks, or are rich, or have a great job, and you ask her, it's highly likely she'll say she doesn't have a boyfriend. If you're not and you ask her, she'll tell you she does even if she actually doesn't.
Case closed.
If she's interested in you somehow, she'll make it known. If you got fame, looks, or are rich, or have a great job, and you ask her, it's highly likely she'll say she doesn't have a boyfriend. If you're not and you ask her, she'll tell you she does even if she actually doesn't.
Case closed.
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I don't know...Do we have the same username?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
no disrespect
cake my man you need to read and not post so much because you need to take (IN=LET SOME OF THE PREVIOUS ADVICE SET IN) the whole being a dj thing its cool to ask question but not everyday there are other post that answer your question
but to answer your question you do not ask because it will come off as insecure=afc
if you have any question go to the search bar and type in what your looking trust me this forum has plenty of threads with just about any question
cake my man you need to read and not post so much because you need to take (IN=LET SOME OF THE PREVIOUS ADVICE SET IN) the whole being a dj thing its cool to ask question but not everyday there are other post that answer your question
but to answer your question you do not ask because it will come off as insecure=afc
if you have any question go to the search bar and type in what your looking trust me this forum has plenty of threads with just about any question