"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is it a bad move to ask the girl if they have a boyfriend?

SeymourCake

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What do y'all think?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Can't read?
 

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So in other words, don't ask. What if they tell you they have a boyfriend?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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That won't work. She'll look at me like any other man who fits into that stereotype.
 

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Don't ask.... Make her answer the question through your advances
 

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It is possible to find out without actually asking her.

You "Hey what did you do this weekend?"
Her "I did xyz"
You "That's cool. Did you go with your boyfriend?"

Then she'd either say something like.

Yeah I did
He didn't come
I don't have a boyfriend

The girl won't know that you are really asking if she has a BF and she will have no reason to lie.

What you do from then on is up to you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SeymourCake said:
What do y'all think?
NEVER ask if they have a bf or are married. If they are off the market they'll let you know. And if you to blurt it out and ask there's a good chance you'll get the autopilot response they have one even if they don't.

I forget who said it, but it's pretty damn true:

"If you've got bad game they'll tell you they have a bf even if they don't. If you've got good game they'll hope you don't find out about him."
 

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When you make your move on her, she'll let you know. If she says she does, either you had weak game or just wasn't attractive or didn't have enough to offer. Translation; She's just not that into you.

If she's interested in you somehow, she'll make it known. If you got fame, looks, or are rich, or have a great job, and you ask her, it's highly likely she'll say she doesn't have a boyfriend. If you're not and you ask her, she'll tell you she does even if she actually doesn't.

Case closed.
 

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Aren't you the same guy that wanted to go around asking random girls to f*ck?
 

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I don't know...Do we have the same username?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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no disrespect
cake my man you need to read and not post so much because you need to take (IN=LET SOME OF THE PREVIOUS ADVICE SET IN) the whole being a dj thing its cool to ask question but not everyday there are other post that answer your question
but to answer your question you do not ask because it will come off as insecure=afc
if you have any question go to the search bar and type in what your looking trust me this forum has plenty of threads with just about any question
 
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