I mean where is the point, most of you guys saying you so alpha, the you use phone and facebook? I never had facebook, and thinking about dropping my phone in the river lol And I dont think asking a girl for her number is alpha behavior at all.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is having a mobile phone a sign you are not totally alpha?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Demonicale
Senior Don Juan
iluvathar said:
Had to reply to this, this guy "get's it" ... i quit facebook as it's ****e and it's not alpha, it's pathetic and i hate that generation.
I've also felt the same about my phone, hate having it with me .. only reason i have it is i feel if i did'nt i might get into something and not have a way to contact someone lol.
TheException
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Ya i bet that makes making friends and making plans for you two so easy....must be using morse code.
Demonicale
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TheException said:
lmao!, i still use my phone, but morse code is something i'll now consider aswell
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
Having electric isn't alpha either... So I'm calling the electric company and having that sh!t turned off.... Or better yet - im just going to rip down the power lines myself!
And after that, I'm going to sell my car and walk everywhere...
Yes baby, I'm so alpha...
And after that, I'm going to sell my car and walk everywhere...
Yes baby, I'm so alpha...
Atom Smasher
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Am I ok with a steam engines?
Mike32ct
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There was a time when having a car phone was ultra alpha / high status lol.
They phased those out and gave us handheld cell/mobile phones to beta us (and better track our location lol).
They phased those out and gave us handheld cell/mobile phones to beta us (and better track our location lol).
Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Why is everyone so obsessed with being alpha, chill out and enjoy your life. Who cares who has done the most alpha thing?! Keep your phone, dont be stupid and just get on with your life...in London that's what we call just being a beg.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Poonani Maker
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Having a MANual push mower on a quarter of an acre is mf'in Alpha. That's what I got. My neighbors think I'm Boss, but at the same time, a cheapo, I still drive the same little truck from 2002. They be leasing BMWs, stangs, and SUVs, due to the wives in the families, I believe.bukowski_merit said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dedication
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Wow, i agree with you. I never thought about it that way, by now that i look back from personal experience i can see it.evan12 said:
When i get work related calls its always because they want to know how to do something or what to do. So i'm usually explaining something elaborate and putting people to work. But now that i think about it, people around me, and especially women, react differently and its easier for me to talk to them.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
I'm going to go live in a cardboard box. Alpha's don't need a house.
Screw a computer as well, I'll just carve notes on trees....that way the next set of Alphas will have something to read.
Screw a computer as well, I'll just carve notes on trees....that way the next set of Alphas will have something to read.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.