I mean where is the point, most of you guys saying you so alpha, the you use phone and facebook? I never had facebook, and thinking about dropping my phone in the river lol And I dont think asking a girl for her number is alpha behavior at all.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
iluvathar said:I mean where is the point, most of you guys saying you so alpha, the you use phone and facebook? I never had facebook, and thinking about dropping my phone in the river lol And I dont think asking a girl for her number is alpha behavior at all.
TheException said:Ya i bet that makes making friends and making plans for you two so easy....must be using morse code.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Having a MANual push mower on a quarter of an acre is mf'in Alpha. That's what I got. My neighbors think I'm Boss, but at the same time, a cheapo, I still drive the same little truck from 2002. They be leasing BMWs, stangs, and SUVs, due to the wives in the families, I believe.bukowski_merit said:Having electric isn't alpha either... So I'm calling the electric company and having that sh!t turned off.... Or better yet - im just going to rip down the power lines myself!
And after that, I'm going to sell my car and walk everywhere...
Yes baby, I'm so alpha...
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wow, i agree with you. I never thought about it that way, by now that i look back from personal experience i can see it.evan12 said:In fact it is very alpha when a woman see you talking about business in phone , I can bet some of them wet their panties at that moment especially if your face is serious and completely focus on the call .
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.