I mean where is the point, most of you guys saying you so alpha, the you use phone and facebook? I never had facebook, and thinking about dropping my phone in the river lol And I dont think asking a girl for her number is alpha behavior at all.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
iluvathar said:I mean where is the point, most of you guys saying you so alpha, the you use phone and facebook? I never had facebook, and thinking about dropping my phone in the river lol And I dont think asking a girl for her number is alpha behavior at all.
TheException said:Ya i bet that makes making friends and making plans for you two so easy....must be using morse code.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Having a MANual push mower on a quarter of an acre is mf'in Alpha. That's what I got. My neighbors think I'm Boss, but at the same time, a cheapo, I still drive the same little truck from 2002. They be leasing BMWs, stangs, and SUVs, due to the wives in the families, I believe.bukowski_merit said:Having electric isn't alpha either... So I'm calling the electric company and having that sh!t turned off.... Or better yet - im just going to rip down the power lines myself!
And after that, I'm going to sell my car and walk everywhere...
Yes baby, I'm so alpha...
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Wow, i agree with you. I never thought about it that way, by now that i look back from personal experience i can see it.evan12 said:In fact it is very alpha when a woman see you talking about business in phone , I can bet some of them wet their panties at that moment especially if your face is serious and completely focus on the call .
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.