"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is hands in pockets bad body language?

timmylivingalie

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Since its about to become winter and most people are wearing jackets is it ok to put your hands in your jacket pockets?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bokanovsky

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No, you are morally obligated to freeze your hands off out of a deep sense of commitment to DJ principles.
 

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I don't like hands in pockets.

Cold or otherwise.

No further comments.
 

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It's considered gentlemanly to hide a boner by keeping one hand in the pants pocket while standing or walking. Visually, this works much better when you're wearing a sports jacket or blazer, and slacks with pleats. It's difficult to get away with a leisurely pose while wearing a busy-ness suit.

If it's cold, wear an overcoat, gloves, a hat, a scarf, and maybe an umbrella.

I get the impression you're talking about workmen's zipper jackets, peacoats, and the like. If you're dressing that far down, well, your choice of attire is your real problem -- not what you're doing when you presented yourself to the world that way.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dear Timmy,
Yeah Hands in pockets is slovenly!
 

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Yeah if you ever feel like putting your hands in your pocket instead place your thumbs in the belt loops on the front of your pants.


"Hands On the Old Hips, or Through the Belt Loops
By placing his hands on his hips, it makes his shoulders appear broader and allows him to look bigger. This obviously shows you that he’s trying to capture your attention and show you how masculine he is, and how he could be your big protector. When a man places his fingers through his belt loops, it displays the genital region in a triangular shape, and says, “come and get me tiger”. Since men can be primitive I thought I’d throw this in, when you spot a group of men standing together with their fingers through their belt loops, it means that they are marking their territory…"

http://webpages.shepherd.edu/cpoole01/language/reading/men.html
 

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Or you can just stop worrying about things that have no meaning whatsoever when it comes to getting women and focus on things that do. Like not worrying about these things.

Do you see where I'm going with this?
 

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I have always enjoyed a good game of pocket pool with myself. :) Not planning on giving that up anytime soon. Girls always approach me more when I do this anyways!
 

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I was standing like this http://www.google.com/imgres?start=...8&ved=1t:429,r:59,s:200,i:181&biw=981&bih=638 in my daily travels BeFore the movie came out. It was just how I was setting my wrists on my hips at that particular time in my life. When I'd seen the movie, scary how I was looking at my recent self, and not copying from the movie, how it coincided --- Very strange. I no longer stand that way, not because of the movie, but because I just naturally have shifted/changed to a different me. I vary it up quite a bit in my encounters, and I've been told after fvcking a woman that, "You're never boring..." when I'm telling them I'm boring, you must be getting sick of me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yeah if you ever feel like putting your hands in your pocket instead place your thumbs in the belt loops on the front of your pants.

This is what I do when I think about it.
 

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timmylivingalie said:
Since its about to become winter and most people are wearing jackets is it ok to put your hands in your jacket pockets?

Generally, yes, it's bad body language. It can come off as insecure and send subtle cues that you're hiding something. What you can do to make it okay is to disqualify it from being a bad thing, simply by saying "brrr... it's cold out here!" and then stuff your hands in your pockets. That's a lot different from rolling up to a woman with your hands hidden from the start.
 

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samspade said:
Body language has meaning. There is such a thing as signaling.

Recently I saw a group of groomsmen waiting to pose for wedding photos in a park. They were all acting jovial, making jokes and smiling, laughing, etc. One guy stood in the back, looking down a lot, with his hands firmly ensconced in his pant pockets. He was chuckling with the rest, but if I asked you to pick out the biggest Follower in the group, you'd have no problem singling this guy out, solely based on body language.

If I can see it, imagine what the opposite sex reads into it.
Thanks
 

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Nutz said:
Generally, yes, it's bad body language. It can come off as insecure and send subtle cues that you're hiding something. What you can do to make it okay is to disqualify it from being a bad thing, simply by saying "brrr... it's cold out here!" and then stuff your hands in your pockets. That's a lot different from rolling up to a woman with your hands hidden from the start.
Thanks
 

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I am not allowed to when in uniform as it gives off an unprofessional demeanor. As a result of that I've stopped doing it completely.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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