"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is deleting Facebook a good idea

Dhoulmagus

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i know there's pros to having it but I'm sick of the self narcism and dealing with bums and idiots on there. Is it better just to clean my fb out?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SayWhat

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Yes it is.

If you have to keep it for work purposes and certain groups like me, just disable the news feed of those who spam your time line with stupid nonsense.
 

Casillas

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There are more advantages of deleting Facebook than use it, I don't delete my account because in a way its important to be in the social media circle. But I delete it from all my electronic devices (Including my phone) because when I need to do something I don't distract myself just checking the stupid things they upload or share.
 

Julian

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I recently "remade" my fb. I dont add any friends. Just have a good picture, and everything else on private.
 

Who Dares Win

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I deleted facebook and didnt feel the need to remake it, once you can reach your contacts on whatsapp you no longer need it unless you're a high schooler.

I mean I dont give a fvck about other people life and they dont give a fvck about mine, I dont wanna see their ugly kids and they dont wanna see my gym shots so why pretend we do?

Also to know that a girl can show me to her friends and debate about my worth as person from a cellphone doesnt really make me happy since we talk about dating here.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ubercat

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I only keep mine for family really. When times are tough your friendsters won't be there.

Before I got my current girlfriend I did have a few woman screen themselves out by asking for my Facebook before they would meet up. Why the hell I would agree for some random chick to sit in judgement of my life I don't know. Also smells of low interest and I don't have time to bother trying to turn maybes into yes. And it's a pretty good indication that they are social media obsessed which is a huge red flag for me. So yeah if you don't kill Facebook at least prune it hard.
 

Serenity

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I sometimes post about major stuff happening in life (what Facebook was intended for). I don't look at it so much. No need to delete it, I just don't go look if I don't feel like it.
 

Yewki

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FB is basically an online asylum for narcissistic tool bags with no self awareness

If you make status updates on there regularly, I have bad news for you...
 

RangerMIke

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Yes. Good idea. Having said that I do have an account, but I never post anything, I just use it to keep track of friends and family. The women I date, sometimes send me friend requests but I ignore them, when they ask me about it I just say "I never post anything on it." Which is true and just leave it at that.
 

PeasantPlayer

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Have it for friends and family, think about deleting it everyday
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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