You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
there are people who are going to find you attractive and others are not. If you think you are attractive then you probably are and are confident about it!
Some people are photogenic and others are not. I have met people people from the net and from the pictures they had showed to me, they looked nothing like that in real life.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
alot of girls check me out all the time. their BFs always seem to be intimidated by me. But my problem is i dont know how to conversate and "holla" well... heres my pic..
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
As I have mentioned in one of my previous postings, please don't put too much emphasis on what your score is on HOT OR NOT site. It does not reflect your real beauty i.e., your personality. In addition, I highly doubt their methodology to compute the score.
I reiterate: Nothing beats your inner self and confidence. If you feel like "10" the world will see that "10." Frankly, I will take a "6" with "10" confidence over "10" look and "4" confidence. Without a doubt most chicks will agree with me!
So go sarging with your conviction in yourself rather than what some lame site rates you as.
Ken you do look intimidating but not because you are a superstud or anything, it just that you have that "am gonna kick your ass if you look at me the wrong way" smile a lil and dont always give off such a mean look cause you dont need to.
Ken you do look intimidating but not because you are a superstud or anything, it just that you have that "am gonna kick your ass if you look at me the wrong way" smile a lil and dont always give off such a mean look cause you dont need to.
You look like a gansta or one of those Chinese warrior emperors from long ago. I can see why girls check you out and guys are intimidated by you. Don't worry man, you don't need pretty-boy looks to attract chicks -- manliness does too
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Originally posted by SIXPAKGQ
Some people are photogenic and others are not. I have met people people from the net and from the pictures they had showed to me, they looked nothing like that in real life.
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Very true, I've noticed that some very photogenic people "photograph up", meaning that they look better in pictures than in person, while others "photograph even" and look pretty much the same in person as in pictures, while still others "photograph down" and usually have pictures that are significantly less attractive than the real thing. I too have met girls from online who couldn't really live up to their pictures... and it's strange to me, because I have the opposite sort of problem (considered by most women - based on their unsolicited comments - to be very attractive, and I am pleased with what I see in the mirror, but do not consider myself very photogenic = usually hate my pictures!)
Originally posted by thebsharp Ken you do look intimidating but not because you are a superstud or anything, it just that you have that "am gonna kick your ass if you look at me the wrong way" smile a lil and dont always give off such a mean look cause you dont need to.
Originally posted by fonderboy
You look like a gansta or one of those Chinese warrior emperors from long ago. I can see why girls check you out and guys are intimidated by you. Don't worry man, you don't need pretty-boy looks to attract chicks -- manliness does too
LOL.... man, that **** was funny. I think you're a decent looking guy Ken, but these guys are right. You need to smile a little bit more. Us Asian guys have the problem of giving off a rather somber mood - I think it's an unfortunate coincidence that we come from a more reserved culture system than the West, in which publicly displaying wild emotions is seen as abnormal, even abhorrent (seen as lack of dignity, class). The thing is, us Asians in N.America aren't living in the East anymore. We're in the West and we need to adopt these Western values if we're to adapt to the dating market (well, native born Asian-Americans already do adapt, but some immigrants don't).
I'm guilty of not smiling too sometimes, so your pic/post and the responses were a good wake up call. So thanks.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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