I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I thought my ears were burning!! heheOriginally posted by Fatality
Clooney
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Same here. With the male mindset, great looks = you get lots of ass (because that's the way we see it for women). But in reality it doesn't really work that way for guys, so sometimes it would make me feel like there's something wrong with me and then lower my self-confidence because I couldn't get girls despite my looks. Now I at least know what I'm supposed to do; I just have to apply myself.I am model good looking. i get self concious because of this. The fact that I can get alot of women but i don't take every opportunity fazes me sometimes.
God, acne sucks. Does it serve ANY f***ing cosmic purpose in the grand scheme of the universe? The moment I realized I kicked my facial acne problem was a glorious one indeed. I recently sort of kicked a bacne problem too. Try using body wash with 2% Salycilic(sp?) Acid, and two things that I've read up on that supposedly help that seemed to have helped me are Tree Tea Oil and taking Zinc pills daily. It's funny how many combinations of weird shyt I tried to get rid of my acne.Get rid of this facial acne and I'd give myself an 8.
They just approach you in a club setting or anywhere?Originally posted by CLOONEY
Being good looking also replaces game to a large extent, almost entirely I will say. U get approached by lots of woman, and sometimes stunning woman, who close u! A lot of the time, u just have to make an appearance to get woman.
Not anywhere. That just doesn't happen, unless you literally look like Brad Pitt, or unless you're doing something to emit an incredibly approachable vibe.Originally posted by Fatality
They just approach you in a club setting or anywhere?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.