Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Is anyone here "model" good looking?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
It's funny when I'm walking down the street with my sunglasses on and never turn my head as if I'm not looking at anyone passing me by, and girls will always blatantly check me out as if they think I don't see them.If the tables were turned and it was the girls who had to do the approaching and not the guys, I'd probably be rolling in girls. But I'm still working on my confidence issues and social building, so I have yet to get to that level of DJing.
And yeah, I like the "attention", although all it does is make girls more open to (and dying for) approaches. I've never been in a situation where the attention was "too much". I suppose if you're a very extroverted person, that alone in conjunction with the good looks can do absolute wonders for you. That's not me, though.
he's fairly humble though, most girls think he's stunning, hes tall and prob just a little 2 skinny..
he's fairly normal but probably just a little more confident when he's out then most guys, but u don't really notice it, because he doesn't rub it in ya face...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Soma
Banned
Anyway my best friend though he's SUCH a good looking guy has very LITTLE confidence. He likes the attention but he doesn't do anything about it. The very rare times that he actually goes for a girl and gets her info...the date usually ends up going nowhere cause he bores them to death with silence.
Nahhh,
I also have a friend with "model" good looks. He has had a girl a week for at least 14 years I would say and he HAS NEVER made the first move........EVER. LOOKS DO MATTER.
I look like a fairly tall, well built, friendly guy. Women tell me I look pretty good. They usually say that I am above average, 7.5 on sight and 8.5 after knowing me. It has gotten me NOWHERE. Well, I have had a fair bit of sex and I am married but on some level I lack that confidence with women and quickly turn them into friends. Just can't take that leap of faith.
I am, by definition an AFC. I had some stern words to a girl today, not too stern, just said "Look, if you want me to take this seriously, you also have to take it seriously" I was talking about a project. She said she was taking it seriously. NOW, RIGHT NOW, I am thinking I should text message something to let her know we are still mates because I am afraid she will quit the project.
I SUCK, as many, many of you have told me over and over again. It is so hard to go against natural feelings but I am fighting the urge.
Anyway, if you look like George Clooney or Brad Pitt I am certain life gets easier.....with women anyway.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
If you are less than an 8 though you have to be proactive, but at least you are in the driving seat.
It's proven by research, life is easier for good looking, tall people and on the surface that seems great.
I liken it however to being born a rich kid who never understands the value of 'learning' the challenges of making money through effort and skill.
That's why some refugees come to a new country with nothing and 10 years later they are millionaires, while Joe Bloggs is still doing the same thing for about the same amount in the same time frame.
This may be a false belief, but it helps me. Probably soem of the best DJ in the world are very ugly.
Why? because they attched the meaning that they where going to get fit birds DESPITE their looks and became very very good at it.
mahon83050
Banned
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
If you are less than an 8 though you have to be proactive, but at least you are in the driving seat.
It's proven by research, life is easier for good looking, tall people and on the surface that seems great.
I have had sex with something between 20 and 30 women. and nearly everytime they were so horny for me..I didnt have to do anything.
I am 5 foot 7 inches(im short) i do have a good body and Im good looking. I am a 7.5 to 8...except in not tall..which is fine since I cant control that.
you can still get women..masses of women not being the ideal guy for them. now that I read what ur saying its starting to make more sense to me. as long as you are atleast a 5..you can get women.
im sure being extremely good looking helps. but it wont help a person on the inside if there head isnt on straight. my friend Tara is a 8.5 as a women and she has no confidence.
cheers!
I thought my ears were burning!! hehe
Being good looking is great, but girls go for different kinds of "good looking". There are so many different kinds. Style also plays a HUGE part.
Being good looking also replaces game to a large extent, almost entirely I will say. U get approached by lots of woman, and sometimes stunning woman, who close u! A lot of the time, u just have to make an appearance to get woman. However u do get judged a lot more by people who dont know u, and a lot of people also want to see u fail!
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Style really helps, too. Especially if you're in the 6-8 range in the looks department.
But style can even work for really bad looking guys. Some sort of ultra-grungy "bad boy" look often works for guys who are straight-out ugly.
Hollowpoint
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
Same here. With the male mindset, great looks = you get lots of ass (because that's the way we see it for women). But in reality it doesn't really work that way for guys, so sometimes it would make me feel like there's something wrong with me and then lower my self-confidence because I couldn't get girls despite my looks. Now I at least know what I'm supposed to do; I just have to apply myself.
God, acne sucks. Does it serve ANY f***ing cosmic purpose in the grand scheme of the universe? The moment I realized I kicked my facial acne problem was a glorious one indeed. I recently sort of kicked a bacne problem too. Try using body wash with 2% Salycilic(sp?) Acid, and two things that I've read up on that supposedly help that seemed to have helped me are Tree Tea Oil and taking Zinc pills daily. It's funny how many combinations of weird shyt I tried to get rid of my acne.
jbbrain
Master Don Juan
I've modelled before..no big deal..
Being good looking is ok, but I've heard it works even better when coupled with something called "manliness"....
Shhh...don't tell 'nobody' I told you.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
Not anywhere. That just doesn't happen, unless you literally look like Brad Pitt, or unless you're doing something to emit an incredibly approachable vibe.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.