"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Is 7 on HOT OR NOT a decent enough rating?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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plate's_empty
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
plate's_empty
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It used to be that HotorNot overrated everyone using a bell curve. But now the ratings seem accurate. It at least provides a common standard so IMO its ok to test out photos of women you've dated.
Finally, SoSuave is a site for helping men date women they like.To try and disqualify a members advice because you underrated a photo of their woman is missing the point. And of course 7 is hot.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yo, F*CK "some people." Anybody who would try to piss in your cappuccino regarding a woman you are seeing aren't worth your time. Real friends would LIE to you about a girl's looks if you're happy with them.TheLoner said:
Nope, you not thinking she's ugly proved it.
But where are the pics.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
He is a troll.
He is a troll.
He is a troll.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
plate's_empty said:
Her legs are a little too thick and her boobs are a little too big...fake looking...but i would give her about a 7.5...but then again i am more attracted to the Asian women who have very petite but at the same time curvy bodies
plate's_empty
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Yeah, I can see that there. Skinnier wouldn't be bad, to me, it all depends on the girl, and how their total package is put together. And she's put together pretty well. This chick looks like at least a 9, further review might be up close to the 10 range. Maybe not in a few years but at that time, she looks pretty good.zinc4 said:
EDIT: And as far tits go, fake or not, those are pretty much as perfect as big tits can be.
plate's_empty said:
A 9....no way man...only a natural beauty who also looks like a supermodel can be a 9...she looks like a fake porn star which she probably is...not to say a porn star can't be a nine looks wise because there are some really good looking ones that don't have that super fake look but this chick is not one of them.....fake boobs too thick of thighs super slutty looking face....she is just a fake cheap looking chick anyway you cut it....no way in hell she is a 9....don't get me wrong i would tear it up any day but she is nowhere close to a 9...
Here is what I consider a 9 looks wise:
http://guanabee.com/gallery/wurth-2011-calendar-supermodels-pictures/wurth-2011-calendar-supermodels-pictures-05/
plate's_empty
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and this brings us to our next lesson. Don't smoke crack.zinc4 said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.