"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Is 7 on HOT OR NOT a decent enough rating?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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plate's_empty
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
plate's_empty
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It used to be that HotorNot overrated everyone using a bell curve. But now the ratings seem accurate. It at least provides a common standard so IMO its ok to test out photos of women you've dated.
Finally, SoSuave is a site for helping men date women they like.To try and disqualify a members advice because you underrated a photo of their woman is missing the point. And of course 7 is hot.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yo, F*CK "some people." Anybody who would try to piss in your cappuccino regarding a woman you are seeing aren't worth your time. Real friends would LIE to you about a girl's looks if you're happy with them.TheLoner said:
Nope, you not thinking she's ugly proved it.
But where are the pics.
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
He is a troll.
He is a troll.
He is a troll.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
plate's_empty said:
Her legs are a little too thick and her boobs are a little too big...fake looking...but i would give her about a 7.5...but then again i am more attracted to the Asian women who have very petite but at the same time curvy bodies
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, I can see that there. Skinnier wouldn't be bad, to me, it all depends on the girl, and how their total package is put together. And she's put together pretty well. This chick looks like at least a 9, further review might be up close to the 10 range. Maybe not in a few years but at that time, she looks pretty good.zinc4 said:
EDIT: And as far tits go, fake or not, those are pretty much as perfect as big tits can be.
plate's_empty said:
A 9....no way man...only a natural beauty who also looks like a supermodel can be a 9...she looks like a fake porn star which she probably is...not to say a porn star can't be a nine looks wise because there are some really good looking ones that don't have that super fake look but this chick is not one of them.....fake boobs too thick of thighs super slutty looking face....she is just a fake cheap looking chick anyway you cut it....no way in hell she is a 9....don't get me wrong i would tear it up any day but she is nowhere close to a 9...
Here is what I consider a 9 looks wise:
http://guanabee.com/gallery/wurth-2011-calendar-supermodels-pictures/wurth-2011-calendar-supermodels-pictures-05/
plate's_empty
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and this brings us to our next lesson. Don't smoke crack.zinc4 said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.