"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Is 7 on HOT OR NOT a decent enough rating?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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plate's_empty
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
plate's_empty
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It used to be that HotorNot overrated everyone using a bell curve. But now the ratings seem accurate. It at least provides a common standard so IMO its ok to test out photos of women you've dated.
Finally, SoSuave is a site for helping men date women they like.To try and disqualify a members advice because you underrated a photo of their woman is missing the point. And of course 7 is hot.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yo, F*CK "some people." Anybody who would try to piss in your cappuccino regarding a woman you are seeing aren't worth your time. Real friends would LIE to you about a girl's looks if you're happy with them.TheLoner said:
Nope, you not thinking she's ugly proved it.
But where are the pics.
plate's_empty
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He is a troll.
He is a troll.
He is a troll.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
plate's_empty said:
Her legs are a little too thick and her boobs are a little too big...fake looking...but i would give her about a 7.5...but then again i am more attracted to the Asian women who have very petite but at the same time curvy bodies
plate's_empty
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Yeah, I can see that there. Skinnier wouldn't be bad, to me, it all depends on the girl, and how their total package is put together. And she's put together pretty well. This chick looks like at least a 9, further review might be up close to the 10 range. Maybe not in a few years but at that time, she looks pretty good.zinc4 said:
EDIT: And as far tits go, fake or not, those are pretty much as perfect as big tits can be.
plate's_empty said:
A 9....no way man...only a natural beauty who also looks like a supermodel can be a 9...she looks like a fake porn star which she probably is...not to say a porn star can't be a nine looks wise because there are some really good looking ones that don't have that super fake look but this chick is not one of them.....fake boobs too thick of thighs super slutty looking face....she is just a fake cheap looking chick anyway you cut it....no way in hell she is a 9....don't get me wrong i would tear it up any day but she is nowhere close to a 9...
Here is what I consider a 9 looks wise:
http://guanabee.com/gallery/wurth-2011-calendar-supermodels-pictures/wurth-2011-calendar-supermodels-pictures-05/
plate's_empty
Senior Don Juan
and this brings us to our next lesson. Don't smoke crack.zinc4 said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.