skip2mylou781
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i will post a threat on how i # close on AIM and wat i do from there, LOOK FOR IT VERY VERY VERY SOON
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sounds like friend zoneOriginally posted by The_Lifter
I've only just started learning this stuff so go easy.
I've been talking to this chick for a month or so, leaning back, being generally mysterious and rolling with the C&F. She's been giving me the come on throughout. Lately she's started talking to me about this drama that's happening with her ex and how she's sad because he's sad and how she doesn't want to see him upset, she tells me when he's calling, how often she talks to him and all this crap. She's a little bit insecure, so it could actually be genuine (or maybe I don't know enough yet). At first I reacted to it the way any AFC would do by comforting her but lately I've just been completely indifferent or ended the conversation altogether.
Is she shyt testing me?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
enough saidOriginally posted by skip2mylou781
i get about a 30% reply rate, so if i send out 50 messages, i get about 20 sns
And this is why a lot of guys can't sarge online. They don't understand that you still need to approach, seduce and close (with various other steps in between).Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
Yep It's easy to net sarge but a lot of men want to learn the art of approaching, seducing and closing.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That says it all in a nushell. This info does not apply at all to guys who are not "****in gorgeous."80-90 said I was hot, we flirted and gave compliments, ect ect
30 or so said im SO ****IN GORGEOUS
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.