skip2mylou781
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i will post a threat on how i # close on AIM and wat i do from there, LOOK FOR IT VERY VERY VERY SOON
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
sounds like friend zoneOriginally posted by The_Lifter
I've only just started learning this stuff so go easy.
I've been talking to this chick for a month or so, leaning back, being generally mysterious and rolling with the C&F. She's been giving me the come on throughout. Lately she's started talking to me about this drama that's happening with her ex and how she's sad because he's sad and how she doesn't want to see him upset, she tells me when he's calling, how often she talks to him and all this crap. She's a little bit insecure, so it could actually be genuine (or maybe I don't know enough yet). At first I reacted to it the way any AFC would do by comforting her but lately I've just been completely indifferent or ended the conversation altogether.
Is she shyt testing me?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
enough saidOriginally posted by skip2mylou781
i get about a 30% reply rate, so if i send out 50 messages, i get about 20 sns
And this is why a lot of guys can't sarge online. They don't understand that you still need to approach, seduce and close (with various other steps in between).Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
Yep It's easy to net sarge but a lot of men want to learn the art of approaching, seducing and closing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That says it all in a nushell. This info does not apply at all to guys who are not "****in gorgeous."80-90 said I was hot, we flirted and gave compliments, ect ect
30 or so said im SO ****IN GORGEOUS
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.