skip2mylou781
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i will post a threat on how i # close on AIM and wat i do from there, LOOK FOR IT VERY VERY VERY SOON
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sounds like friend zoneOriginally posted by The_Lifter
I've only just started learning this stuff so go easy.
I've been talking to this chick for a month or so, leaning back, being generally mysterious and rolling with the C&F. She's been giving me the come on throughout. Lately she's started talking to me about this drama that's happening with her ex and how she's sad because he's sad and how she doesn't want to see him upset, she tells me when he's calling, how often she talks to him and all this crap. She's a little bit insecure, so it could actually be genuine (or maybe I don't know enough yet). At first I reacted to it the way any AFC would do by comforting her but lately I've just been completely indifferent or ended the conversation altogether.
Is she shyt testing me?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
enough saidOriginally posted by skip2mylou781
i get about a 30% reply rate, so if i send out 50 messages, i get about 20 sns
And this is why a lot of guys can't sarge online. They don't understand that you still need to approach, seduce and close (with various other steps in between).Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
Yep It's easy to net sarge but a lot of men want to learn the art of approaching, seducing and closing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That says it all in a nushell. This info does not apply at all to guys who are not "****in gorgeous."80-90 said I was hot, we flirted and gave compliments, ect ect
30 or so said im SO ****IN GORGEOUS
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.