skip2mylou781
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i will post a threat on how i # close on AIM and wat i do from there, LOOK FOR IT VERY VERY VERY SOON
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sounds like friend zoneOriginally posted by The_Lifter
I've only just started learning this stuff so go easy.
I've been talking to this chick for a month or so, leaning back, being generally mysterious and rolling with the C&F. She's been giving me the come on throughout. Lately she's started talking to me about this drama that's happening with her ex and how she's sad because he's sad and how she doesn't want to see him upset, she tells me when he's calling, how often she talks to him and all this crap. She's a little bit insecure, so it could actually be genuine (or maybe I don't know enough yet). At first I reacted to it the way any AFC would do by comforting her but lately I've just been completely indifferent or ended the conversation altogether.
Is she shyt testing me?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
enough saidOriginally posted by skip2mylou781
i get about a 30% reply rate, so if i send out 50 messages, i get about 20 sns
And this is why a lot of guys can't sarge online. They don't understand that you still need to approach, seduce and close (with various other steps in between).Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
Yep It's easy to net sarge but a lot of men want to learn the art of approaching, seducing and closing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That says it all in a nushell. This info does not apply at all to guys who are not "****in gorgeous."80-90 said I was hot, we flirted and gave compliments, ect ect
30 or so said im SO ****IN GORGEOUS
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.